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  1. Same here. Sorry to hear about your BIL. Cancer sucks.
  2. NRCnKC I'm so very sorry to hear about Callie. She is a beatiful girl. I'm sure you will do what you know is best for her and you can always come here to share your feelings with others who can understand what you are going through. Gregg
  3. Thanks Gracie. Yes they gave me a paw print with the ashes. I encourage you to pick it up. Will it make you cry? Probably. I certainly did. But at the same time I think you will cherish having a little reminder down the road and maybe even bring some closure. Everyone heals at their own pace. Leon is a really nice cat. He loves to play. I was running around the house the other day with him playing hide and go seek. What impressed me even when I picked him was how he didn't mind being picked up. He really really wants Marble to play with him. Hopefully Marble gets better soon and can enjoy
  4. Gving pain meds even if it does hasten death is often the more humane option. That's often what doctors do to dying patients in hospice since unfortunately in this country for some reason we don't give humans the option to end their suffering like we do our animals. So I think you definitely did what was in the best interest by making her feel more comfortable.
  5. I brought Marble to see the oncologist that treated Mango. He is a very good doctor. Anyway Marble almost definitely has pancreatitis. It's always possible that isn't the root cause, but right now that's what he saw on the ultrasound. He ran some more bloodwork so I'll find out in a few days how everything looks. There does seem to be some improvement today and he does seem to be sleeping better so I'm not a nervous wreck like I was before and should be able to sleep tonight myself. On a more somber note I picked up my Mango's ashes today when I was at the animal hospital. Definitely brou
  6. GMS

    Gone too soon.

    I once hit a squirrel who ran out in front of another car next to me. I backed up to make sure it was dead but I felt so guilty. There definitely needs to be a lot more love and caring in this world.
  7. Thanks again everyone. Not too much to update. He's hanging in there and at least doesn't appear to be getting worse. I don't believe the vet is thinking FIP is too likely now but there is still a number of other things it could be. He's still on steroids and I started him on a new antibiotic today. The hope is one of those things helps. There is the possibility of getting types of cancer or other issues but so far nothing definitive. I haven't been sleeping well because he hasn't been sleeping well. Really hoping to see some improvement in the next day or two. Also trying to get in touc
  8. And thank you both for your well wishes.
  9. Thanks. He is eating better right now but I don't know if that's just the appetite stimulant or if he's actually feeling any better. I think he is a bit uncomfortable because he doesn't seem to be able to fall asleep. He goes back to the vet tomorrow for a recheck. The stress is going to kill me.
  10. So Sunday my cat Marble wouldn't eat and then Monday morning he didn't eat so I brought him to the vet yesterday. Most of the bloodwork was fine but his platelets were low and his globulin levels were off (I believe high). The vet said it could be a number of things but one thing he brought up was FIP which would be really bad. Unfortunately they have no easy way to test for FIP. He put Marble on steroids and antibiotics as well as an appetite stimulant. Starting last night he would every so often eat a little chicken or salmon that I gave him but wouldn't eat a lot and is not interested in hi
  11. Unfortunately I don't think most people or animals experience a 'great death' because if we were feeling well enough we wouldn't be ready to die. A friend of my mother died while sitting with his wife watching TV. He was there one second and gone the next. I guess no pain and suffering. Maybe that's a better way to go? I don't think any less traumatic for his wife though. But from what you describe it seems like jaylo did not have a good quality of life and I think you know that. It was the same thing with my cat Mango. I found out his cancer spread to his kidneys and probably into his ce
  12. Yes absolutely. Message me anytime. 🙂
  13. Gracie - Yeah I would definitely recommend meds specifically for the anxiety (after consulting with a doctor of course). It really helped me with my general anxiety as it kind of stops the feedback system which cause the anxiety to get worse and worse as you start thinking about the same thing over and over. It's certainly not a miracle cure and isn't going to stop anxiety altogether for events like losing a loved one. I guess we wouldn't be human if we could do that. And it does tend to take a few weeks to really start to work. If you go that route I hope it helps.
  14. One other thing is I would work with your cat... give her treats when she comes up on the bed or the couch... then work your way up to the lap... it will definitely help in the bonding process and where she was previously she might not have had the option to sit with humans.
  15. FurMama - I completely understand and am definitely going through something similar with my new kitten. He's a wonderful little boy, but I have definitely had some rough days. I think the main thing I have to come to grips with is he will never be Mango. The other day I was lying on my bed watching TV and normally Mango would be coming over to sleep on my lap and it was very soothing. Leon went under the bed to lie down. It got me very emotional. Leon might never do that. But we've only known each other for about a week so relationships take time... even with a pet. But I will learn to love hi
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