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Me too. I'm sorry that happened to you! This was all I had left of my MIL, she died 36 1/2 years ago. She was the mom I always wanted.

I am so sorry for the loss of your friend, and for his wife's tremendous loss...I know what that feels, I lost my soulmate and best friend 19 years ago Father's Day. Living alone since excepting the short stint my son was between Air Force and College, that was long ago. Growing alone w/o my George. He died doing what he loved, glad for that part at least.

I'm so sorry about your diagnosis, but so glad to hear the lilac bloomed. The first thing I planted when moving here 47 years ago was a start off my MIL's lilac tree. It filled me with joy all these years. Last year the rangers (highly intrusive!) came and cut it down without announcing themselves here or their intentions, before 8 am! I ran out there in my robe and slippers, too late. Irreplaceable.

Prayers, Sweetie!

Estates are horrible to settle, best if you don't have to go into probate. Went through that with my sister's place, left to all nine nieces/nephews but lawyers and CPAs took a lion's share. Will over 20 years old, she was in the process of trying to redo it when she died, lawyer never called her back. My brother handled the estate as I'm in my 70s. I appreciate the headache he took on and thankfully he has a wife and grown kids that helped whereas I'm alone and don't have the strength. I'm sorry for your loss. Parent Loss: Continuing Their Song

You might enter their picture in Google image, I often do when looking for recipes. They will come up with some and check on the sites they show to the right.. Yesterday was crazy. My passwords disappeared so I had to type them in, which meant I had to look them up. See why I spent over three days/nights changing them and recording them in a pw protected spreadsheet? It's a good thing I did. Yay Windows 11. Also, I could not get into chat/messenger, not even in our group one in FB. It didn't accept my pin, which I remember and set about a week ago. It sent me a code on my mobile phone but didn't tell me how it was sending it, and I didn't have that on. It opened in AVG browser, not Chrome, which I use. What a mess! I had Lynne call me and verify what I remembered of our discussion when they came up with this. Was so tired! Slept 9 hours last night, I needed it. I got rid of more stuff in the garage. Somebody wanted the computers sitting by my garbage, I said sure, I can't tell you how old they are, maybe windows 95? Hard to remember, but before I got my windows 7 in 2009. I remember giving Windows 98 to a friend along with a printer so this would be before that. Doubt they'll run and they'd been sitting outside, got rained on a bit. Passwords all changed and visa numbers since I used it. He wants to use them for gaming, good luck with it. I have contacted them every way I know to (Don Jackson, the contractor, is in charge and has given them the message several times, also a friend called the church yesterday morning and they said they would call me, still haven't, been four days now.) At this point all I can do is wait and hope they do. I fixed this yesterday, it was seriously out of this world! Iris asked for some so took some to her. I made some changes to it, cut down and added sausage: Keto Eggplant Parmesan Ingredients · 2 medium eggplant sliced into 1/2 inch slices (1…13) · 1/2 teaspoon salt · 2 cups keto bread crumbs (1…0) * See notes · 1 tablespoon Italian seasoning · 3 large eggs (cut to 1…0.6) · 3/4 cup almond milk (cut to ¼…0.25) · 2-3 tablespoons oil to fry Avocado oil (0) · 4 cups keto marinara sauce (12 oz 9) · 3 cups mozzarella cheese freshly grated (1 ½ cups 4.2) · 1 cup parmesan cheese freshly grated ( ½ cup 0) · 1 lb Sausage cooked (0) Instructions 1. Sprinkle salt on all your eggplant slices and let them sit for an hour to draw out moisture. Use a paper towel to dab them after they have drawn out the liquid. 2. Preheat the oven to 180/350F. Grease a large baking dish and add around one cup of the marinara sauce to the bottom of it. 3. *In a small bowl, add the bread crumbs and Italian seasoning and mix together. In a separate bowl, combine the eggs and milk and whisk together. Dip each eggplant slice in the egg wash, followed by the bread crumb mix, ensuring both sides are coated. Place them all on a plate or baking tray until ready to cook. 4. Add the oil in a large non-stick pan. Once hot, add a single layer of eggplant slices and cook both sides until golden brown. Repeat until all the eggplant slices are cooked. 5. Add a single layer of the fried eggplant into the base of the baking dish. Spoon a little marinara sauce on top of each one, followed by a generous layer of the mozzarella cheese and the parmesan cheese. Repeat the process until all the eggplant has been used up. Sprinkle the top of the baking dish any remaining cheese. 6. Bake the eggplant parmesan for 20-25 minutes, until the cheese is golden and bubbly. Turn it on a high broil for the last 3 minutes. 7. Remove the eggplant parm from the oven and let it sit for five minutes before serving. Notes * If you don’t want to make keto bread crumbs, you can use almond flour. If you don’t fry before baking, bake 350 45 minutes. Can cook w/o peeling. TO STORE: Store leftovers in the refrigerator, covered, for up to 5 days. TO FREEZE: Place portions of the eggplant parm in an airtight container and store them in the freezer for up to 6 months. TO REHEAT: Microwave portions for 30-40 seconds until warm, or reheat in a preheated oven until the cheese has melted. TO MAKE AHEAD: Prepare everything as instructed, then cover the baking dish completely in aluminum foil. Either refrigerate it for 3 days in advance or freeze it for up to 2 months in advance. When ready to cook, bring the baking dish to room temperature and bake it for 30-35 minutes. Do not bake from frozen. 8 servings, 5 net carbs each #recipe https://thebigmansworld.com/keto-eggplant-parmesan/... I would cut to 1 egg and ¼ c. almond Milk Cut mozzarella and parmesan in half, use at least 1 c. Panko crumbs and/or almond flour, 1-2 eggplants. Cut portion to 4 and cut Italo’s sausage Pasta Sauce to 12 oz, you’ll have 12 oz left to put in freezer for something else. This will also cut the carbs. THEBIGMANSWORLD.COM Keto Eggplant Parmesan (Restaurant Style!) - The Big Man's World ® This keto eggplant parmesan is a delicious (4 servings 6.75)

Thinking of you...

Say a prayer, it's been over two days and no phone call from the Mormon missionaries...I can't move the stuff out and have the work done without their help. There's literally no one at my church that can help me, no one young enough, strong enough, hardly anyone there but old people and not many of them. Same with neighbors, although I'm the oldest.

Have a frank talk with your son, long overdue, tell him you are sorry, ask him what you can do to bury the hatchet...then do it. I am sorry for your loss. It's been nearly 19 years Father's Day I lost my husband, George. It was the 19th that year, and I've lived alone since except when my son was between Air Force and college, and my daughter was here a short time after George died. You think you did something silly, I did something worse when in grief fog...I married. Idiotic, I know, he never lived with me, just used my credit, to the tune of $57,000.00. I'm still paying on it all these years later. I know what I was thinking, I didn't want to do to my kids what my mom had done to us kids...I didn't want to make my life about my adult children, squelching them. I felt I needed to rebuilt my life. Fine job of it, huh? His name is Con John. I divorced him when I came to, should have been able to annul it but it was too late by then. I haven't had any contact with him in years. He's been on the lam so I can't collect what he owes, he's good at hiding, from anyone. I live my life alone with my service dog, growing older (71 now) alone in the country where life is hard. You have finally been able to acknowledge your wife is dead. That's a start. Is it possible to get any photos from family? I know you haven't forgotten what she looks like...you see her in your son's eyes. I miss my husband every day he's gone, nothing changes that. I can't listen to our music, I can't look at pictures of a life once lived... We are like ghosts...

Avocado oil is my favorite but my store quit carrying it in the bulk. I hope they get it back. Coconut oi is good to bake with. I agree about olive oil. I just had to throw out a huge can of it. That seems such a waste. Like they didn't know and value what they had. I have a great set of Mikasa Studio Nova Tender Bloom Stoneware that I love, have used nearly 30 years. Service for 12 or more... You could even try Goodwill or St Vinnie's for dishes. Any outlet stores would be good for new sets, I got mine there but ordered replacements from Replacements Inc. or on eBay. The original set was way less, replacement pieces is where they get you. Still waiting to hear back from the Mormon missionaries, the builder will talk to them at church. I really need help moving stuff, no way could I do it alone.

And I know it's a necessity in your city. I got a window A/C that seems to take care of the heat here, I know we aren't as hot as there but there was a time we hit 121 and it handled it. Of course you'd need more than one in different parts of the house, I sleep in my living room not my bedroom. Got it on Amazon $2-300. Also, you might check with senior services and the electric company to see if there are any programs/helps. I know in my state they helped people (AFTER I got mine) who didn't have one esp. the elderly.

The contractor just left...I requested two bids, one for short term emergent to save my essential room with electrical, water tank, pipes, and freezer, and the other for the back of the carport. He agreed. I told him I understand wood fluctuates by the week (Random Lengths comes out with it's pricing every week...I used to be Office Mgr for a mill) but it'd give me an idea give/take. I feel so relieved! He's going to call the Mormon missionaries to have them give me a call and I can arrange a time with them and get a dumpster up here meanwhile and he'll provide a dolly to them. Later when I've had $ saved up I can do the back of the carport. I discovered a "blower & box" that weighs a ton that needs moved, I didn't even know I had it...that will go into the dumpster if they can get it in there. A truck will move it when it's full. Now that I have a plan, I am so relieved! I don't want the carport going too long w/o the back replaced so will do my best to save $ for it. Still no prices but he said what he does to save my tank/electrical room will be under $1,000. Whew!

The contractor just left...I requested two bids, one for short term emergent to save my essential room with electrical, water tank, pipes, and freezer, and the other for the back of the carport. He agreed. I told him I understand wood fluctuates by the week (Random Lengths comes out with it's pricing every week...I used to be Office Mgr for a mill) but it'd give me an idea give/take. I feel so relieved! He's going to call the Mormon missionaries to have them give me a call and I can arrange a time with them and get a dumpster up here meanwhile and he'll provide a dolly to them. Later when I've had $ saved up I can do the back of the carport. I discovered a "blower & box" that weighs a ton that needs moved, I didn't even know I had it...that will go into the dumpster if they can get it in there. A truck will move it when it's full. Now that I have a plan, I am so relieved! I don't want the carport going too long w/o the back replaced so will do my best to save $ for it. Still no prices but he said what he does to save my tank/electrical room will be under $1,000. Whew!

Thank you, Marty!

I wouldn't doubt it... Thank you!

If you knew what I knew about seed oils...let's just say don't use Canola, vegetable oil, use avocado oil, or olive oil or coconut oil. And olive oil goes rancid quickly. I got a windows update yesterday too, also in the time I'm on my laptop. No snow but more coming this week. Urgent prayer request: I'm having a bid done for the back of my carport to be lifted and replaced...they quoted $2500 before Covid then was told it went up 4-8 times as much, not having $10-$20k laying around I've been waiting for the price to go down...they said it hasn't. The room on the end is the important one, it has the electrical, water tank and pipes...they're doing a bid tomorrow. Today I get a bill from the well people (just paid them $4300 on my M/C) for MORE $ that I'd been told was included in that, now they say not! The guy had said I was in it for $3750, they billed me $4300, now more yet! Kodie and Panther are doing well, they don't have worries!

Urgent prayer request: I'm having a bid done for the back of my carport to be lifted and replaced...they quoted $2500 before Covid then was told it went up 4-8 times as much, not having $10-$20k laying around I've been waiting for the price to go down...they said it hasn't. The room on the end is the important one, it has the electrical, water tank and pipes...they're doing a bid tomorrow. Today I get a bill from the well people (just paid them $4300 on my M/C) for MORE $ that I'd been told was included in that, now they say not! The guy had said I was in it for $3750, they billed me $4300, now more yet!

I just told Melissa's dad (we don't have contact, been divorced nearly 24 years) she was divorced nearly two years...she said she'd told him and he'd even met her BF, shows how much he retains. Last time I'd seen him was 4 1/2 years ago, at my son's also. Boy, wouldn't that be great! Did anyone get to see the eclypse? Nothing here, no dark sky, zilch.

Where to start...internet and phone out all day yesterday. Not a lot of snow, seems a while ago, out of mind. Don't remember what was going on with grieving site but it's challenging, the other mod. is a bit of a bully, his way or the highway. Still I demand respect for his position and won't let anyone disrespect him, removed a post for such this morning. 800 tree pollen is by far higher than anyone in the nation, other states under 100, 50. When it's that bad everyone in town suffers. In church Sunday we had about six people there plus elders and speaker, everyone else out sick with flu and allergies. Iris has had it for a couple of weeks. So far I'm fortunate. It's been over a week w/my foot but just elevate it and curb my walking...until yesterday doing 1/2 walks. I have a huge sore on top of my foot from my compression socks, so am wearing the weaker of them today. Hoping it heals soon. Damned if you do, damned if you don't, so to speak. Absolutely NO eclypse here though, none, zilch! No dark sky, nothing. Big ado about nothing, guess you had to be in TX or NE of. They didn't even cover it on the news here, one channel did but turned tv on five min. before it stopped airing and they were down to wrapping up, no pictures, nothing. Oh I read my last post, yeah, I'd forgotten about that, likely a glitch. Being on Keto it did away with all but insane pollen...no one is spared that. I had food allergies for 38 years, gone! I couldn't eat fish all those years! Take care of yourself. Laptop had a day with black screen of death, no idea why, worked fine the next day. Go figure. Maybe it wanted a break from me changing pws! It wasn't alone.

Oh Karen, I am so sorry. I turn off my laptop and am in bed by 7...yesterday we were w/o internet and phone all day. No clue why someone would wear clown hair...nothing to do with being gay. I guess he's just asserting himself how he sees himself. Hopefully next time they'll have it right? My dad's were made in the army, he always ate w/o them. My sister accepted her ill fitting dentures w/o a word! Ate without them too. I had my bridge redone after a year of dissatisfaction. Kevin, the pup is adorable and I'm glad he's doing well with you guys.

I am so sorry. I check this site every day but we had a city wide internet/phone outage yesterday. My heart goes out to you. Losing your spouse is one of the hardest things I've ever been through. It helps to read and post, come here, it's a safe place where others get it and will listen. Grief Process This is not a one-size-fits-all, what strikes us one day will be different a few months/years from now, so please save/print this for reference! I want to share an article I wrote of the things I've found helpful over the years, in the hopes something will be of help to you either now or on down the road. TIPS TO MAKE YOUR WAY THROUGH GRIEF There's no way to sum up how to go on in a simple easy answer, but I encourage you to read the other threads here, little by little you will learn how to make your way through this. I do want to give you some pointers though, of some things I've learned on my journey. Take one day at a time. The Bible says each day has enough trouble of its own, I've found that to be true, so don't bite off more than you can chew. It can be challenging enough just to tackle today. I tell myself, I only have to get through today. Then I get up tomorrow and do it all over again. To think about the "rest of my life" invites anxiety. Don't be afraid, grief may not end but it evolves. The intensity lessens eventually. Visit your doctor. Tell them about your loss, any troubles sleeping, suicidal thoughts, anxiety attacks. They need to know these things in order to help you through it...this is all part of grief. Suicidal thoughts are common in early grief. If they're reoccurring, call a suicide hotline. I felt that way early on, but then realized it wasn't that I wanted to die so much as I didn't want to go through what I'd have to face if I lived. Back to taking a day at a time. Suicide Hotline - Call 1-800-273-8255 or www.crisis textline.org or US and Canada: text 741741 UK: text 85258 | Ireland: text 50808 Give yourself permission to smile. It is not our grief that binds us to them, but our love, and that continues still. Try not to isolate too much. There's a balance to reach between taking time to process our grief, and avoiding it...it's good to find that balance for yourself. We can't keep so busy as to avoid our grief, it has a way of haunting us, finding us, and demanding we pay attention to it! Some people set aside time every day to grieve. I didn't have to, it searched and found me! Self-care is extremely important, more so than ever. That person that would have cared for you is gone, now you're it...learn to be your own best friend, your own advocate, practice self-care. You'll need it more than ever. Recognize that your doctor isn't trained in grief, find a professional grief counselor that is. We need help finding ourselves through this maze of grief, knowing where to start, etc. They have not only the knowledge, but the resources. In time, consider a grief support group. If your friends have not been through it themselves, they may not understand what you're going through, it helps to find someone somewhere who DOES "get it". Be patient, give yourself time. There's no hurry or timetable about cleaning out belongings, etc. They can wait, you can take a year, ten years, or never deal with it. It's okay, it's what YOU are comfortable with that matters. Know that what we are comfortable with may change from time to time. That first couple of years I put his pictures up, took them down, up, down, depending on whether it made me feel better or worse. Finally, they were up to stay. Consider a pet. Not everyone is a pet fan, but I've found that my dog helps immensely. It's someone to love, someone to come home to, someone happy to see me, someone that gives me a purpose...I have to come home and feed him. Besides, they're known to relieve stress. Well maybe not in the puppy stage when they're chewing up everything, but there's older ones to adopt if you don't relish that stage. Make yourself get out now and then. You may not feel interest in anything, things that interested you before seem to feel flat now. That's normal. Push yourself out of your comfort zone just a wee bit now and then. Eating out alone, going to a movie alone or church alone, all of these things are hard to do at first. You may feel you flunked at it, cried throughout, that's okay, you did it, you tried, and eventually you get a little better at it. If I waited until I had someone to do things with I'd be stuck at home a lot. Keep coming here. We've been through it and we're all going through this together. Look for joy in every day. It will be hard to find at first, but in practicing this, it will change your focus so you can embrace what IS rather than merely focusing on what ISN'T. It teaches you to live in the present and appreciate fully. You have lost your big joy in life, and all other small joys may seem insignificant in comparison, but rather than compare what used to be to what is, learn the ability to appreciate each and every small thing that comes your way...a rainbow, a phone call from a friend, unexpected money, a stranger smiling at you, whatever the small joy, embrace it. It's an art that takes practice and is life changing if you continue it. Eventually consider volunteering. It helps us when we're outward focused, it's a win/win. (((hugs))) Praying for you today.

No. And I say this only because I believe you need the truth to proceed best for YOU. If you read all of the threads in this section you will notice there are commonalities, that being one of them. Most of these are people who broke up because one of them was grieving a death. Not anyone's fault. And they never got back together. Sometimes strung along for a while, but never ended up back together. Years ago two of them looked like they were going to make it, but they later messaged me that they did not. I am so sorry you are going through this, I know it's painful. My advice is to do things in your best interest even as you realize she is doing the same in hers. You can't focus so much on her now that you neglect YOU. Open your life up to those who are supportive, your family and friends. Seek groups/interests that are like minded, if you like sports or gardening, or books or whatever, be around those who do also. Congratulations on your upcoming trip abroad, it'll be here before you know it!

Sometimes both are needed...🙏🙏🙏

Kevin, You saved a beautiful sweet pup's life! I pray it is a blessing on you and your wife, I believe it will be. Karen good luck tomorrow then! Don't forget to protect your eyes tomorrow during the eclipsed! Marg...to the grgrandson you never met. I understand. Thank you for sharing that sweet refrain.

So you'll be fitted and pick them up? Part of it is the rough terrain. No sidewalks. I was going up an embankment in my yard and didn't go up my usual path, shouldn't have taken a shortcut. Will have to remember that the next time I think I'm 20.