Maryo Posted July 21, 2009 Report Share Posted July 21, 2009 Hello everyone. My name is Mary and tomorrow is a special day for my daughter and myself. It will be one year that my husband passed away at age 57. We will go to the cemetery and then have a good cry. We have gone through many emotions over the year. When I look back it was the toughest time of our life but we have survived it and have learned so much. I have learned to take one day at a time and when you wake up and it feels like you are having a bad day have a good cry and then try and find something good in the day. I have learned to tell my daughter every day that I love her. I am not a stranger to grief. I lost both my parents by the age of 16. I have lost my best friend and I miss the most not talking with him. I am hopeful the next year will be better.Thanks for letting me share this with you.Mary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted July 21, 2009 Report Share Posted July 21, 2009 Bless your heart, dear Mary ~ We'll all be thinking of you tomorrow on your special day of remembrance . . . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David'sGirlStill Posted July 21, 2009 Report Share Posted July 21, 2009 Mary,My thoughts are with you on this day. Please contuine to share. This is a wonderful family.HugsPhyllis Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marsha Posted July 21, 2009 Report Share Posted July 21, 2009 Thank you, Mary, so much for sharing your thoughts, and welcome here. I've just passed a year as well, and your post could have been lifted from my journal. I sense a good deal of strength from you. But we both know that working to be strong doesn't mean feeling weak, also-- and that's quite ok, too. My good thoughts are with you and your daughter tomorrow, to remember the love. Hugs, Marsha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryo Posted July 21, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 21, 2009 Hello Marty and everyone in this special group. Thank - you so much for all your kind words. I hope I am sending this in the correct spot. First time is a bit confusing.Mary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
valley Posted July 21, 2009 Report Share Posted July 21, 2009 Bless you Mary and your daughter. For you to say that you both have survived the year and learned so much is a tribute to you both. Like you I believe in taking one day at a time. And also to look for something good in each day (I am not always that successful with this). I appreciate your experience and wisdom. I honor you for sharing with us all.I am starting to get so scared inside as in 7 weeks, I too will be at the one year mark. And the loss is still so overwhelming. I yearn to just sit and talk with Tom. He was my perfect match. But this is about you and your daughter and the love you share. Bless you today and all the days.Valley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laurieb Posted July 22, 2009 Report Share Posted July 22, 2009 Mary you and your daughter will be in my prayers. Welcome and we hope you stay and share your story. We all learn from each other and although it has only been 4 months for me I admire the strength you are sharing. I hope I heal and mature to your level of understanding, and peace.laurie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Mayhew Posted July 22, 2009 Report Share Posted July 22, 2009 Hi Mary, I'm glad you have found us here ... I hope the first anniversary was not too tough on you, thank you for sharing your story with us - it gives us hope.x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted July 22, 2009 Report Share Posted July 22, 2009 Mary,Thank you for sharing with us...you have made it through the year of "firsts without" (as I've dubbed it), that seems a milestone in and of itself! You didn't mention if you had support or not, but you have arrived at what most of us here have learned, a day at a time, a deep appreciation for what we DO have, and that strong sense of survivorship. Please feel free to come back here any time, we're all doing this together.Kay Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Create an account or sign in to comment
You need to be a member in order to leave a comment
Create an account
Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!
Register a new accountSign in
Already have an account? Sign in here.
Sign In Now