sharirouse Posted December 14, 2014 Report Share Posted December 14, 2014 This is mainly something about a post by KayC that I remember reading. Not in these words, she ultimately said that we need to realize that our loved ones were not perfect and that many of them were mean or had flaws and such and its so true but at the same time its hard for me to accept that. Or admit it at least because after my dad died, I hated when people would say anything mean about him because its like he wasnt there to defend himself. I was telling my mom how guilty I felt for not spending more time with my dad throughout my life and especially closer to his passing. I saw him at least once a day for the most part, if not 5 days out of the week. My mom had to remind me that I did spend time with him but sometimes I didnt want to. My parents are divorced for multiple reasons, some I do not know, but one of them being that my dad was controlling. He got mean and he ruled with fear sometimes. After the divorce, he changed that and really tried to fix that about himself but honestly, I forget and I dont want to admit it. He had said some mean things and I know those were why I left or didnt talk to him for a few days. I guess Im not really sure what Im asking here but how do I realize that he wasnt perfect without making myself feel like I am saying he was a mean person sometimes? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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