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We missed you, too, Kim! We kept looking for you... I very much enjoyed meeting everyone that came. It's nice to be able to put a face with a name when you're writing. We already talked about it and have all agreed to meet again. I'm not certain that I can do it monthly - with work and my other widow lunch, but would love to do it every other month or every couple of months; something like that. I know that Bob has a picture of all of us. I'm sure he will get it on here soon. Hugs to all. Patti

We could all wear those sticky name tags!?!?!?! Ha!! Just joking. I'm sure that we will get together just fine. We may just have to ask each other a few times what our names are. Personally, I'm very excited! We should bring a picture of our loved ones..... Don't forget the camera, Desert Bob. See you all around 1:30 today. Hugs. Patti

Absolutely!! I will be there! Hope everyone else, that can, will be too. See you all Saturday. Hugs! Patti

Stallyn & anyone else that hasn't heard and is interested..... We are having a lunch get together this coming Sat. April 12th, in the Phoenix area (sorry, other areas....) We will be meeting at Bill Johnson's Big Apple @ 31st Ave. & Indian School Rd. about 1:30pm (I believe that time is correct - Tori, if not let us know). I'm excited about meeting all of you!! Have the best week possible and we will see you on Saturday. Hugs. Patti

Tori - Thank you so much!!! I'm getting so excited and might I add, a bit nervous...... I guess it's anxious, not nervous. I would have loved to have seen her face about the separate bills! That's too funny!!! So...anyone that wants to join us is more than welcome!! Gotta get off to work, so will chat again later. Hugs to all! By the way...we DO need to make sure SOMEONE has a camera that we can take some pictures and post them on here for the others. I HAVE a camera, but I am by no means a "camera buff" plus I have no clue how to get them onto my computer. Maybe someone else can help us out on this? Patti

Appreciate that, Kathy!!! And if it's Patty that is coming with you, ABSOLUTELY!!!! See you all soon! Hugs. Patti

I appreciate your help, Tori! You know, I'm IN!! I would count Kathy (Bebekat) in. I will email her and I will try to email the others and see how many we can get to come. I would think it would be around 8-10. So, let's say 1:30pm on Sat. 4/12 at Bill Johnson's Big Apple at 31st Ave. & Indian School. Sounds good to me!! Have the best day possible. Hugs!! Patti

Carol - So do we need to reserve anything or just go there around 1:30? Can all of you that want to meet let me know so we know approximately how many will be there? Thanks! I'm so excited about meeting you all!!! Hugs. Patti

The "pick" doesn't matter to me. I am going to contact The Big Apple today, as someone had suggested, and see if they have semi private rooms. I will let you all know what I find out. Hope your day is pleasant! Hugs. Patti

Derek!! You have come such a long way! I remember when you first posted on here - I was already more than a year ahead of you. I lost Charlie 3 years and 4 months ago - crazy to think about how fast time has gone. I was glad to read, in your post, that you and your son are moving along in life. I most certainly am too - guess we don't have any choice. I used to go out onto the back porch and talk with him and cry, but now it's not very often that I do that. As you said, it's not that I have forgotten or feel anything less for him; it's just what he wanted me to do and it's what you do, eventually. You move on. I think it's good that us "more experienced" people are still posting once in a while on here because it shows the new people that things really do get "better" eventually. I can say for certain that none of us like it, but it's the way life is. I hope everyone has the best day possible and Happy Easter to all of you!!! Hugs. Patti

I still would like to very much! Let's try for April 12th, since Kathy (Bebekat) has that day off. I am able to make my own schedule at work, now, so I will get that day off. I'm going to have to go back over these posts and see where it is people want to meet. Probably will be central Phoenix of some sort.... Have the best day possible! Hugs. Patti

Well, I think I'm the only one from the "far west valley" and I have no problem with driving to central Phoenix. I am thinking, tho, that I might have to wait until April....my March Saturday's are getting used up between my ex-husband coming into town to visit my daughter and grandkids. I'm scheduled to work a couple of Saturday's this month and since I've had every Sat. off for the last 2 months so I could attend my grandson's basketball games....I'm going to have to work. I hope you all don't mind waiting.... (actually, you don't have to wait if you all don't want to....maybe we could meet AGAIN in April....) If people don't want to drive to meet some new friends, then I guess they don't have to. I would love to meet up with anyone that is interested. We'll get something figured out! Hugs. Patti

Weekends are best for me, too. Lets start planning for a Sat. in March. I'm going to need to plan, also, because I do work some Saturday's. Currently my grandsons are playing basketball in Surprise, so I go out there on Saturdays, but their last game is March 8th or 9th (which ever is a Sat.) Anywhere you all want to go is fine with me....since pretty much EVERYWHERE in Arizona is "east of Buckeye". I don't have any issues with driving. And Kathy (Bebekat) is absolutely right - she's not a psycho!! She's very sweet! Lets keep in touch and start planning and maybe by that time a few more people will respond. I KNOW there are more people on here from AZ. (Stalen?, John (Dusky)?....who else?) Gotta get in the shower and ready for work. We will definately get this planned!! Hugs to everyone! Patti

Come on, people from AZ.....respond! A couple of you have, but I want the rest of you to. I am sorry that not everyone here could meet up! I would love to meet all of you. Kathy and Tori...what is considered West Central Phoenix? West of Central?!?!? DUH!! In that case...I'm west of Central - extremely west, but west. Ha! I missed you guys, too, Kath, but had to help out at work. Saved me money for gas and lunch and made a little at the same time. Did Jan tell you that I got promoted to the manager of the store? Have the best day possible! Hugs to all. Patti

It seems like everytime I come on this site, there are more and more people from Arizona on here. I'm wondering if any of you would like to try to make plans to get together? I think it would be wonderful if we could all meet. Let me know what you think and we will work on it... Hugs to all!! Patti

Karen - that is SO wonderful!!! While I was reading your post, I had chills flowing thru my body. I loved your story!!!! Cherish that forever! Hugs to all. Patti

Teny - I really think you should consider going on with the wedding planner business, as you have planned. I think it would do you a world of good!!! You KNOW how proud your husband would be when you and your friend's business is successful! Sounds like you have made some steps forward and I am so happy for you. I can understand how hard it must be to be in that hospital again. Your mom needs your strength and it sounds like the operation isn't serious so I bet she will be fine in no time. Try to keep moving forward Teny! Don't let this hospital "thing" keep you from achieving something you (and your husband) can be proud of. I say " Go Get Them, Teny!" Hugs to you and everyone here. Patti

Just had to tell you that my daughter and I went to see "PS I love you" on Christmas. I did pretty well through the movie, but I cried all the way home. I lost my beloved Charlie a little over 3 years ago. I still miss him and love him very much!! Don't know if I will ever become "involved" with anyone again either - as Bob said, Never say never. Stranger things have happened! Hugs to all of you!! Patti

It's good to hear from you again, John!! I am absent from this website quite a bit now, myself, but periodically I come in and read as much as I can. Congratulations on the book, John! I look forward to hearing more about it when the time comes. I have read all your posts about it since you first told us you were writing a book and I am so happy for you! Be sure to keep us posted! Hugs to all of you, Patti

Congratulations "Grandma" Gail!!!! I have 3 grandkids of my own that I absolutely love to pieces!!!! They are 9, 7 & 5 and are just the best! Atleast I think so...my daughter was just "bitching" about them this morning, but that's what so great about being a grandma. And YES, I love being called grandma - only one of them calls me that. When the oldest was just learning to talk he came up with a really strange "name" to call me and I've always told everyone that I don't CARE what they call me....as long as they ALWAYS call me. Being a grandma is so wonderful - and yes....you will go bankrupt!! Congrats again and hugs to all of you! I hope 2008 is good to all of you!! Patti

I am very much with you, Wendy!! People have the right to believe whatever it is they believe and I was rather taken aback by the comments to your thread, here. I have read numerous books about ADC and I found it fascinating! As I said, my motherinlaw & sisterinlaw have spoken with both Sunni Wells and Christine. I enjoyed reading your experience, Wendy!! Thanks for sharing! Hugs to all Patti

I have met Christine along with Sunni Wells (her partner). Sunni lives in Sedona AZ and I live in AZ and went to a group session she had here, along with my motherinlaw & sisterinlaw. The group session was very difficult because there were so many people that by the time she got to us she was running out of time so cut it very short (so at that time I wasn't impressed). Since that time both my motherinlaw & sisterinlaw have had phone sessions with Sunni and were both VERY impressed. I'm glad it well for you!! Hugs! Patti

That was beautiful and I had to go and get a kleenex! Thought I was doing OK today until I read that.... I miss him so much - even after 3 years! I hope everyone has the best Thanksgiving possible. I'm thankful for the years I had with my beloved Charlie. They were the BEST!! Hugs to all. Patti

That was beautiful, WaltC!! Thank you! I just now had a chance to listen to that and it made me cry. I did pretty good on Friday; we were really busy at work, so it kind of kept my mind off of it. On Friday morning before I left for work I lit the memorial candle, that I light each year, for him. (It's a safe candle - can't tip over and the candle is down inside the glass..) When I got home it was still burning (burns for 24 hrs) so when midnight rolled around, I blew it out (what was left) and went to bed. Charlie passed away at 10 pm so I wanted it to atleast burn during that time. Thanks so much for all the kind words from all of you!! I appreciate it very much! Hugs to all of you!!!! Patti

Thank you all for your kind thoughts! I cried while I was in the shower getting ready for work, but am hoping the day goes better. I have lit my memorial candle for him and it should still be burning when I get home this evening. I want it to burn atleast up until 10pm which was the time of his death.... My best to Larrysgirl, if she comes here!! I believe she's 2 years today.... Hugs to everyone!! Patti