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Iris had me over for dinner last night, she went to the doctor beforehand and she has another UTI and a busted ear drum, her ins. won't cover the Rx but she told them to fill it anyway, she can fight with them later. She starts her radiation today, has to leave at 6:30 am to be there by 8. No, she can't help me, she had two family members die in the last two weeks, her hands are beyond full. This is why I help her, not to mention still newly grieving Mike's death. Also her best friend is dying. She is bringing her meals, getting her dog out, there for her. I am reminded that no man is an island, we all are a sense of community and need each other. I wanted to shower Thursday and discovered my rubber gloves had a tear in it, same thumb as I cut. Tape didn't hold, super glue got everywhere...so I went on Amazon and ordered some, to arrive today. They said I canceled my order. NO I DID NOT! I was awaiting anxiously for them! I tried calling them today, took 1 1/2 hours and six tries to get someone! (BTW, did I say how much I hate their AI that "answers their phone!" Texts wouldn't come in, their reps hung up before talking to me, on and on it went. FINALLY got someone that told me I canceled, no I didn't! Ordered another pair and instead of next day they're taking until Monday late afternoon! They have so many glitches in their system, I won't bore you with the details but let's just say they're a necessary evil in today. I will take Kodie to see Jazzy about 8:30 so she can get some exercise. It's the least I can do. Two days ago I saw a post by my neighbor Aaron...he'd ordered a fishing rod for a gift for someone, thinking it came with a reel, but it didn't. I told him to come get one at my place. He came with his partner and they picked out one, got excited when he saw a fly fishing pole, I told him to take it and any others if/when he wanted. I haven't used them since George died, I was allergic to fish for 38 years and couldn't breathe or touch them but someone could BBQ them on the grill if they cleaned the grill real well and we ate on the picnic table in open air. I loved fishing with George, being in nature, enjoying his company and most of all, his exuberance!

I cut myself with a kitchen knife 3/4" across and to the bone, it bled profusely through three large bandages for 4 1/2 hours and that's when I said I need ER for stitches,

Cut my thumb to the bone, after 4 1/2 hours of profuse bleeding through three large bandages, went to ER Dr and got stitches, numbness wore off during the night, hurts like the dickens. Can't shower, cook, clean, do dishes. Have to go back to Dr in eight days. Kevin, evacuations downgraded here, everyone back home, they're still doing mop up, air quality good, got this three days ago! Never saw zero before!

Yesterday I woke up and my PC would not turn on. A bad day. I LOVED my PC, I had it over 14 year and bought it used. Windows 7. I hate Windows 10. Haven't seen 11. I bought Office when my son was in college, before you had to pay a subscription. Microsoft sicked OneDriveNow on me and they took my $ but didn't help me. I'm considering filing a dispute on my credit card. My laptop doesn't have a CD drive so no way to install my printer. I've gone paperless but sometimes that's an issue. I spent hours yesterday catching up my budget on Excel and learning things about how to work this new version. Will have to pay Microsoft for Office Subscription this month. Ugh. Have used laptop twice in the last year. Yesterday I consoled myself that I still have Kodie, the PC was just a piece of hardware...but why do I feel I lost a companion?! It did what I wanted and didn't interrupt me constantly with McAfee. They should make old folks PCs, oh yeah, they did...Windows 7. Sigh... Your friend sounds like a good person. I'm glad his mom is okay. Panther is fine, esp. now that the smoke is gone! Kodie only went out limited time so he' okay. Panther's voice will get stronger now that the air is good. He sure likes to sleep in the day time. My "owl" that is supposed to scare off the birds hasn't arrived yet, mail doing weird stuff. Supposed to be here 9/2. I don't think you'll have a hard time renting between soc sec and bank account. They have places that rent to seniors and even give a better rate. If they don't ask your bank account, all the better if they stick to your income. BS was up this morning because of the stress of yesterday. 13 pts higher than yesterday morning before all this hit. Air two days ago (not any better than that!)

Microsoft sicked OneDriveNow on me, they took my $ and didn't help me get my printer installed. Debating fighting their charge. My installation was done with a CD drive on my PC but my laptop doesn't have one. I only use the printer a couple of times a year and am considering forgetting it.

I woke up to a dead PC (may it RIP) it was 16 years old, I've had it over 14 years and loved it! I feel like I lost my partner! I have been catching up my laptop budget, utilities, settings, etc. Ugh. I loved Windows 7, now it's gone. Stuck with Windows 10, double ugh. But the good thing is I had caught up my laptop two weeks ago when I went to my son's, thankfully.

I have problems getting my fingers to do what I wish with all these hand injuries, my fingers stutter. My brain tells them one thing and they do another. Not sure how to copy/paste with my phone...don't know how to use bluetooth and can't get my kids to take the time to show me.

Resurrecting for the sake of current one...

Are you talking about what SHE told you? Who can know, but it was the death that polished it off regardless. It was her not being able to handle grief and a relationship at the same time. Don't let her put a different spin on it afterwards...cut her off. IMO

Marg, I have a friend who is 90, she operates hers...don't sell yourself short, you're a lot smarter than you're giving yourself credit for1 Prayers for here today/tonight...T&L storms continual. Pray no more fires! Rain also but 76 (likely 82), but rain doesn't always help the underbrush that gets on fire.

I think they do know. My Kitty (25 1/2) was not a lap person, she slept next to me but as far away as she could get. The night before I had her euthanized, she came to me as I was turning the light out, then looked peowed because I was turning the light out, so I called her to me as she was storming off. She sat on my lap (she never did!) and purred as if to thank me for all these years! She'd lost half her weight. She'd always had the ability to heal herself, but not this time, her kidneys were shutting down, I found out her liver was too and she had thyroid issues that were treatable, but the kidneys and liver were not. I am so glad we got that cuddle time, it meant a lot. I'd promised her a forever home, and grumpy or not, I meant it. I still miss and love her and that was Jan. 6, 2020. I adopted a feral cat a year ago April but he's outdoor only as he claws everything, not just a bit, but huge shards, and it's bad enough what he's done to my patio and ramp, plus he's nocturnal, but he has a relationship with me and my dog, and we love each other. I understand, I'm about to turn 71 and my pup could take me to age 83, I don't want to rehome someone. But they're great incentive and company... My heart goes out to you. You can rest assured your kitty is at peace now... I hope this short video brings you some comfort and peace. Comfort for Grieving Animal Lovers

This isn't specific to grief but break ups in general, but I like his list....and I would stress, focus on YOU and block them when you're ready, the sooner the better. All it does is torment you and no good comes from seeing them on FB, getting messages from them that aren't going anywhere... https://www.loveshack.org/forums/topic/233031-reconciliation-list/

You have to understand it's not EVERYONE, it's the certain segment of those who cannot grieve and do a relationship at the same time. And who is to say they weren't in some way dissatisfied with the relationship and never let on? I just want you to understand it is not YOU! It's nothing you did or didn't do!

Mothballs and cat urine. When I had Kitty (indoor cat) I'd put her used cat litter around the outside of the carport to keep them away. I put mothballs under the patio and around the outside of the house. But they come up on the patio, so do raccoons and fox, but mostly the skunks. I've started putting Panther's food inside at night. Sometimes they get it down right after I put it out! And can they scarf quickly! I am blown away by the jeweler! Why did they agree if they had no intention of going ahead? Sounds weird to me. I'd still try a couple more just to see what they say, don't pay for any more appraisals though. You'd be better off if it was stolen! It's so wrong. Tuesday I went to get my air filtration system exchanged, when I got there there was one empty parking space and I took it. They sent me back out to the car with my air filtration system, didn't want it back, it is tall, and blocked my view, I was looking around it when I made my way to the car, and hurrying as it was heavy (for me). I got in the car, looked in the mirrors and started to back up...a car parked horizontally behind me, not right up against my car but not a lot of room inbetween either, certainly not a whole lane. What a place to put a parking place! I've never seen anyone there before, but there it is. I tapped the car, the crumpling on my car was the same place as where someone did a hit and run four years ago. On his car it left some of my paint but no indentations. I waited for him to come out and we exchanged ins. info. We talked for probably an hour, he was Jim's half brother...small world! Very nice guy! He told me someone hit him a while back and he's still dealing with medical issues and all the paperwork hassle that goes with it. Anyway, after I left, I thought, I should ask if he wants me to settle with him outside of ins, so I called him. He agreed and said he's not getting the car fixed, I suggested he use rubbing compound on it, it'll take it right off. My mechanic did that on my car a while back and it removed the other person's paint. So we met at the bank and I withdrew $500 and gave it to him and he handed me back my ins. info! I felt I got off lucky as it would of raised my rates for three years and God knows what else. On my car they would have deemed it preexisting and not covered. I get what my phone deems as spam risk. They say not to answer it as it encourages them to keep trying. That's anyone that makes a lot of calls. SIL has been trying to call me again this week, very annoying, I have her blocked but it still rings in once and you can see it in the call log...20 times. I think she's over the top nuts. The fax machine is nearby and makes a lot of racket. II just turned the volume way down and my landline in here off, it literally pierced my ears. They don't let you set the lowest volume, it's second lowest or off. Oh Scott, I am so sorry! You should have called me! Do you have my number? I know you have my email. I wish I could give you a hug. I care. I too live alone with no one to tell these bad days to (mine was Tuesday), it is hard, I know. I, too, would like a mild winter. Then of course they'll try to scare us with the drought stuff, it's always something! I don't like to listen to news, we get what we get and deal with it when the time comes. I can't control the weather or the elections, and both seem nuts to me! I just looked up our air, I love looking at it now that it's finally changed! 11 air quality, that's great, and in the 40s outside, we haven't seen those temps since way before summer! Good luck with whatever you do today.

I'm so glad to hear it! Brought through another storm! I'm glad I know you're on a hill and not affected by flooding, me too.

One time I got my brakes replaced (Mock & Son's, Eugene, OR, early 70s), and a few days later they failed on busy River Road. I was going slow, but even so tapped a Porsche and Mock & Son's wouldn't stand behind their work. To top it off, I had just switched from Farmer's to Allstate, and Allstate said "never knew you." I had to take out a loan from Dial Finance ($2,000) to pay for it and they charged 29% interest. Not everything "back in the day" was good! Had it been today I would have a copy of my insurance immediately on my PC! Back then I made the deal over the phone, dropped off my payment in the slot on their door...they were supposed to be open for me but the guy was in a hurry to go on vacation. Those are the days we trusted. Not any more and see what it got me then!

Yes, and unfortunately, I haven't seen one change their minds on anything. They could get therapy if they would, but I haven't seen them do that either, and only they can make that conscious decision to explore why they chose the path they did, let alone do anything about it. I have read and responded to each post on this section and over all these years, not one couple made it intact. A couple seemed to but I learned in messaging that they did not.

And that is true for most all of us! Give yourself credit for what you did right, learn from the rest but move on from it and don't get stuck there! One thing I do know is there really is such a thing as grief overturning a relationship, so many of us have experienced it! And when it's like night and day sudden change... A certain percentage of people just can't handle a relationship while grieving. Sometimes even in marriages, but mostly unmarried relationships. Even when everything was good. And sometimes something may be wrong with the relationship and it hasn't been dealt with, but not always. And Kudos to you for getting therapy! I spent the first half of my life in a counselor's chair! And it helps.

Oh Kevin, I am so sorry your family is going through this! Very hard! I saw in the news that an 11 year old boy who went missing and then back with foster family, has now run away again. These kids don't think very far ahead, what do they think they're going to do!

Didn't have to run A/C yesterday for the first time in a long time! Stand alone unit, barely gets me by but it works. Karen, I'm so sorry and I hope Sears reimburses you, 1 1/2 weeks isn't acceptable where you live! Yesterday was the first time I didn't have to wear a mask! Air right now is 9...love it! They lifted evacuations for the Bedrock Fire, 71% contained. Area in danger of flooding now because of what it did to the land, but the homes were saved. Had an accident yesterday, could NOT see the car, parked across/behind me, BAD spot for one, tight quarters, wasn't there when I parked and when I came out to my car I was carrying a tall air filtration system, couldn't see over it. I met the guy at the bank and paid him rather than turn it in and have the ins. raise my rates for three years, he can get it off with buffing compound and he only paid $700 for the car, neither of us wanted the hassle. So bank account down $500 at the end of month, going to hurt next month.

Have you ever given a cat a bath? They hate them and you wouldn't live to tell it! Cats take good care of themselves. I did get a lot of loose fur off Panther yesterday, he sheds literally clumps, all year around but esp. now, more than any cat I've seen! I need to brush him but not sure how he'd tolerate that. He purred the whole time I got literally handfuls of fur off of him. Poor baby, starved for affection, he soaks up any he can get. Two skunks ate his food yesterday and the blue jays have one of their own eagle eyeing his food. If I never saw another one I'd be happy! Don't like the skunks either, I know it's a matter of time before I get sprayed, the way I stomp and chase them off! Yesterday was the first time I didn't have to wear a mask! Air right now is 9...love it! They lifted evacuations for the Bedrock Fire, 71% contained. Area in danger of flooding now because of what it did to the land, but the homes were saved. I never heard of 28k for a ring, so not sure who'd buy it unless Elon Musk is interested! But seriously, I hope they sell and you get a good price. Everyone kept waking me up after I went to sleep last night, need to take phone off tonight, then I woke up at 1 and didn't get back to sleep. Ugh, I hate that. But BS went down because the heat is gone! So glad! Didn't have to wear compression socks yesterday!

Praying they will. I don't know why they wouldn't! Unfortunately...well stated. It's sad. I'm glad our parents aren't here to see this, or my sister. No the fires are from lightning. At least the ones here in the forest are. It's been a horrid August, evacuations/fires/threats/smoke, it really been awful. Our weather turning today, yay! This is where I live (lat/long): https://forecast.weather.gov/MapClick.php?lat=43.80009302166679&lon=-122.41395950317383&site=pqr&smap=1&marine=0&unit=0&lg=en#.WdkTzMiGOM8 Finally cooler temperatures and maybe some wet stuff! I sure hope so. Our firefighters are all tapped out. And they took away the T&L prediction, yay! Yes, Panther showed up within hours. Have been fighting off Blue Jays, think I finally have them licked, putting his food in at night so as not to attract skunks and wayward cats. He can barely squeak from the smoke, but this morning the air looks better, finally! Hope he can begin to heal.

I am sorry you are going through this. I too had a toxic mom, she had nearly every personality disorder there is, extreme paranoia, never got any treatment until she had stage IV Dementia. So she was out of her mind, but that wasn't necessarily a bad thing, at least she went out softer than she lived. I'm glad your mom is trying now. I am so sorry about your grandma. My heart goes out to you with all you are going through.

They are predicting more "T&L" Saturday.