Daisy3228 Posted September 21, 2014 Report Share Posted September 21, 2014 Hi everyone, my husband Terry was diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer in November last year, and died in early July, aged 60. We've lived in a smallish town for almost 40 years, so know many of the local people. I've always been very active, and I walk at least an hour every day, as well a practising yoga to manage a chronic back condition. While Terry first became ill, exercise was a really great stress buster for me, however it eventually became difficult because so many people would stop me to ask after Terry, and instead of walking being relaxing, it became very stressful, causing me a lot of anxiety. I was always scanning around hoping I wouldn't run into anyone I know and would have to have THAT conversation again. I needed a break from the details of his treatment and progress, and I felt really frustrated that I couldn't even go for a walk in peace. For the same reason, I went to the supermarket really early in the morning after being reduced to tears too often. I want to start walking again but now have the problem of people asking me how I'm going, and wanting to talk about Terry, his illness, death, cancer etc, and I just can't stand it anymore. I want to be more forward focused and recover from what has the most traumatic seven months of my life. Continually talking about it is makes me anxious and is re-traumatizing me. I realise that people are being kind and compassionate, but I wish the vast majority would just leave me alone now. Has anyone dealt with this situation and can offer me some advice? Daisy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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