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kay: Yes, I've tried Voltaren and it worked pretty well for part of the day. The Tylenol works almost the whole day. I know too much Tylenol is not good for us and I only take what my doctor has prescribed. My old body starts shutting down into low gear around 4 pm where I settle down into my recliner for a bit, fix my dinner, and then watch TV and then bedtime. Talk about a "boring life", huh? I couldn't keep up with you and your busy life nor could I keep up with Marg and her family responsibilities. You two and all who are getting up every day and continuing with their life are my inspiration! Dee

Marg: Bet you're wondering what they are thinking and seeing from the ultrasound results. Hope the appointment puts your mind at ease. Good that your son will drive you. Gone are the days when our husband, or special partner, was our shoulder to lean on or even to drop us at the front door of the clinic and wait in the car. Your sister is so blessed to have your support. Dee

Marg: My cataract surgery was a Godsend for me. It made such a difference in my vision enabling me to drive more comfortably. In fact, it lessened the time I need to wear my prescription glasses when I'm home. I do wear them for distance when I drive. Too, since I have had to deal with macular degeneration since 2016 eye appointments are part of my life. All of us have different health issues and how we choose to deal with them. My son fusses with me for not talking to my doctor about having knee surgery. See, I am a "wimp" too. As long as Tylenol gives me some relief to move around, I will suffer the knee pain. I guess I don't hurt bad enough. Dee

Karen: You aren't a "wimp". So sorry the extractions will be so extensive. Thinking of you. Hugs, Dee

Kay: What a sweet, but sad story of your Arlie and his friend Sammie. Dogs are such amazing companions to us. And yes, I know Arlie and Sammie have found their cedar tree. I so envy you being able to have your Kodie to share your life. If I were younger, I'd love to have another dog but will have to be content with my Grand Dog. Taking care of myself is hard enough. LOL This little comment popped up on Facebook page a few months back and thought it perfectly says how it feels to love a dog :

Marg: What a wonderful photo. That photo shows, without words, what Billy's absence means to you. I think we are entitled to feel cranky at our age and our situation of being alone without our husbands. When I do the math on the years that Bob and I would have been married it makes me even more cranky that I have to be here without him. I try to be positive and tell myself that I had 51 years with him, but...... it still hurts. That was so sweet of Scott to want to be with you. He loves and cares about you. Hugs, Dee

Kay: I agree Iris has had a lot to deal with and am sorry. It's understandable there has not been time for training. You are a good friend to help her as much as you do. About a year ago my son adopted a sweet chocolate Labrador and even though she had been trained in some areas she still had the bad habit of jumping on you when she sees you. With her size and my unsteadiness, I had to constantly remind her not to jump. She can easily knock me over. If she is outside and she hears me open my front door she will come running for a treat. Gradually, she has learned to sit to get her treat. It took awhile but she is getting so much better. I do enjoy her but have to be ready to remind her what she needs to do. I know she would benefit from another dog to play with. Dee

Poor little Kodie sure gets abused by his friend, Jazzy. Too bad Jazzy doesn't have better manners. 🐕 Dee

Yes, any other living situation would have to be better than what she is living in. Will keep on hoping for the best for her; seems like that is all that can be done. 🙏🏻 😢Dee

Kay: Was wondering if she mentioned she still reads our comments. and knows we are still thinking of her and praying for her. I too had wished she had chosen to go into an assisted living facility, but she was adamantly against that choice. Also wondered about repercussions if Dee felt others were interfering. Will keep her in my prayers. Thank you, Kay, for keeping us informed. Dee

Ana: Like Marg, you and I aren't in the same generation, but the sadness and pain of losing that special person still aches no matter the length of time we shared a life together. I was blessed with almost 51 years of married life with the perfect husband for me. Your being a young widow has got to be agonizing even though he left you years ago. My life changed in 2015 and I still find myself crying as if it was yesterday. You asked if you are still grieving. I would answer yes, you are still grieving and by doing so shows how much you loved your soulmate. I know I will grieve until my last breath. So good to hear from you. Hugs, Dee

Marg: Oh no, sounds painful. Hope he heals quickly. Yes, Seattle is big and according to what I see on TV is not a place I'd want to visit again. Many years ago, I'd drive up there quite often with some lady friends to attend stage plays, museums, shopping, etc. Besides the years of change and progress, and the awful traffic congestion I'd get lost for sure. When my son has to go there for his work, he drives a truck, he says all the homeless are everywhere. But, sadly, this situation is not only in Seattle. Yes, not hearing from Gwen is a worry. Keep hoping she signs in soon. Karen: Hopefully the dental appointment will be successful for you so you can have all your energy to deal with your vision issue. No one wants to be trapped at home all the time. Good thoughts for you. 🙏🏼Dee

I live about 30-35 miles south of Seattle as the crow flies, neighboring Puyallup, Tacoma and McChord Airforce Base, (now called Joint Base Ft. Lewis-McChord). I think I recall you said your son was stationed there. I have an idea where you live because my daughter also lives in Oregon. She used to live in Oakland but now lives in Roseburg. She and I are always comparing weather conditions and they are always dryer and warmer. I too turned off AC after the weather decided to turn cooler. Like they say, "If you don't like the weather, wait a minute, it will change." Dee

Karen: So sorry to read of your son's situation. He was smart to get himself to a doctor quickly. I can imagine the frustration having to change doctor appointments. It's bad enough having to feel dependent on others. You are fortunate to have your son there. Had hoped there would be a solution for your double vision. Well actually the summer weather just started yesterday here. The sun finally decided to make an appearance after days of clouds and chilly temps and rain. The weatherman is predicting a high of 81 today. That's perfect weather for me. Your summer weather would do me in. Take care, Dee

Hi all: I pop in here every day but really don't have much to share. My life without my dear husband is very quiet and uneventful. My son and his family are busy with their lives even though they live just 100 steps from my front door; (yes, I counted them. LOL). I try not to interfere with their busy life. My life consists of taking care of myself, housework, food preparations, doctor/dental appointments, etc. required to keep this soon to be 82-year-old functioning. My entertainment is mainly TV and watching movies. The local and national news is so depressing I seldom watch; too depressing. My achy bones and joints don't let me work in the yard very long. I envy you young'uns that are able to get out and walk and stay active. So good to hear from "V" again. Your beautifully written words are so true on how this life without our special one is, it really touched my heart. All of you: Kay, Karen, Marg all have such interesting writing styles; in the way you share your feelings. I wasn't given that talent to write so beautifully so find putting my thoughts on paper or "laptop" very difficult. Being a "died-in-the-wool" introvert doesn't help either. My husband was the opposite of me. He never met a stranger. Moving forward for me has some positive traction occasionally, but sometimes it feels like I am going in reverse when "the scar" falls off. I still talk with him and ask him what I should do in many situations. The pain of his loss will always be with me or until my last breath. How nice Kay that you will get to spend a day celebrating your daughter's birthday. Kodie will be the guest of honor, I'm sure. Marg, so sorry to read the weather and storms have added to your worries of caring for your sister. Searching for a new car would be the last thing I could even think about doing. It's good your sister has a car for you to use. Also, I hope your sore muscles and body have recovered from the accident. Yes, I worry about Gwen, too. Hugs to all. Dee

Marg: So glad you are safe. Dee

Kay: I am visualizing Kodie in the grocery store and have to smile - Understandable why he was made over by everyone. I remember his pictures you've shared. He reminds me of a stuffed toy. 😊 Dee

Gwen: Good to hear from you but wish you didn't have to be going through so much still. Pain patch withdrawal and Dee's issues sound unbearable. 😢 Hugs to you from someone who cares. Dee

Marg: Your sister is so lucky to have you there. The SS office visit or a call to the office might help. Being an 81- year- old myself I understand what you are saying. Your stamina to keep going for your family is amazing. I thought Kay's suggestion to contact a notary's office was a good suggestion to start. Keeping you in my thoughts. Dee

Marg: It's good to hear from you. It's been a while, but I do remember you have been dealing with a lot with your sister's health, your car accident and other family needs. It's a blessing to have a big family and they are lucky to have your help. Hope the car mishap has been settled and your right side recovers. Dee

Gwen: So sorry you fell. It is good news you didn't fracture anything. Falling is one of my biggest fears. I hope Dee was home at the time to help you. We were missing you. Hugs, Dee

Ditto Gwen! Hoping all is ok with you. Yesterday, down here about 30 miles South of you, Xfinity (Comcast) was experiencing outages for several hours. A stark reminder how much we are left adrift without TV, and internet service. Keeping positive thoughts for you. And Kay, so sorry to read about Kodie's situation. Keeping you and he in my thoughts as he recovers. Dee

Marg: How awful for you to have to have this happen to you and your little car. Thank goodness you weren't injured more. It seems anymore that everyone is in such a rush they aren't thinking about what's around them. I hope the insurance situation works out for you. Take care. Hugs, Dee

Gwen: Karen's words say what I wish for you perfectly. Am relieved to see you are ok. Please remember you do matter. Hugs. Dee

Kevin: Sounds like a perfect Mother's Day! Dee