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Teny: Happy belated birthday wishes. Love and hugs. Love, Jeanne

Mel: This is a beautiful place. You dog will be a great campanion for you. Be safe and let us know how things are going. Love and God Bless, Jeanne

Hi Derek: I know that all these anniversaries we go through are tough. I am happy that it is not as hard as it was in the beginning for you. I have yet to reach one year. That will be in June. But things seem to be getting better for me. At least I don't burst out in tears when I talk to anybody. But our lives have changed forever and it wasn't what we had planned it to be. I will pray for you tomorrow and hope you have a nice day. Love and God Bless, Jeanne

Kim: I am thinking about you today. My love and prayers go out to you. Love and God Bless, Jeanne

I just want to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart. You are all so wonderful. I am really busy at work, so I don't have to think about it too much. Again, thank you all very much Love and God Bless Jeanne

Hi Kim: I am thinking about you today. My prayers are with you. Hope you are able to have a good day. Love and God Bless, Jeanne

Hi Everyone: Today is Alex's birthday. He would have been 55. This is the first birthday that I am spending without him. I sent him happy birthday wishes and hope that he is enjoying himself with my father and mother and his father and mother. Pretty soon in June, it will be my one year anniversary without him. Love and God Bless Jeanne

Hi Derek: Sorry that I am late on sending. My best wishes go out to you. Hope you had a nice holiday. Love and God Bless, Jeanne

Dear Walt and Kay. My heart goes out to both of you and your losses and how you are enduring this long struggle. You two have been really wonderful in helping me get through some bad times. Even if your posts are not always directed personally to me, they help. Alex has not been gone a year yet and I wonder at times how I will be at 4 years from now. I hope that I can handle it as well as I think you both are. Hang in as I know you both will. We are in this together. Love and God Bless, Jeanne

Hi Kim Hope everything went well with your move. Alex's would have been 55 on March 26th. So young to lose our loves. I am happy that I will be seeing you on-line daily Your friend, Jeanne

David's Girl: I can't believe that after this short time, people are actually saying that you will fall in love again. To they totally not get it. That is definitely not what you want to hear. I am sorry that you lost your husband and that you went through this. I know that when it comes to the organs and if they fail, it is just very hard to deal with. My husband had a bad heart and eventually died of sepsis. It just happens so fast. There is no time to even think. One minute they are OK and then it just hits you and they are gone. I hope that you will get through this and we are all here for you. Love, Jeanne

My dear friend Wendy: I hope your day went well, considering. I was off for a few days. Sorry this is late. My prayers are with you. Love, Jeanne

Jan I hope you have a very peaceful day and that you will get through it. My prayers are with you. Love and God Bless Jeanne

Dear Boo and Kathy: I feel that our lives are a mirror. I also lost my husband of 20 years last June 28, 2008. He was 54 and he died of a heart attack. He did not die immediately. He was in the hospital for 5 months with many ups and downs. He eventually died of sepsus. I am so sorry to hear about both your losses. I am happy that you have found this place to talk about what is going on. I know that it is way too soon since the passing of your husbands. It is still early for me. It will be a year this coming June, but it will get better. There are many people on this site that have lost their spouses a long period of time. They all are wonderful people and have helped me through really rough times. Just reading all the posts will help you somewhat in coping with your grief. My husband and I had no children and like you have very few friends in the immediate area where I live. It is sad that our husbands have died so young. I would have given anything if he could have lived even for another 10 years. I hope that you both will continue to post here and my prayers are with both of you. Love and God Bless, Jeanne

Gogga: I truly know how you feel. Believe me. Everyone here that has lost a spouse knows how you feel. I am not diminishing the loss of a parent, grandparent, aunts, uncles or siblings. I think a child would be the worst. Unfortunately I never had any children. But when you lose your spouse, partner or significant other, the pain goes on forever. I lost both my parents and I have lost grandparents, aunts and uncles and friends. When I lost my mother it was very hard because she was young and I was young. But I recovered. My father was 89 and even though I was heartbroken, I know he lived a good life and I could only wish to live that long and healthy. This is something that most people who haven't lost their spouse or significant don't know how we feel. They say they do, but in truth, they do not. You would have to go through it. I sometimes feel like I am in the twilight zone. You have recovered from your first husband and you will recover from this. Just remember that we are all here for you. Love and God Bless, Jeanne

Dear Gogga: First I have to say how sorry I am about what has happened to you, especially at such a young age. To go through two deaths of a spouse must be just hard to bear. I know that there is probably nothing that I can say to make you feel better. I am dealing with the lose of my husband. Everyone has their own grief. You need to really take things very slow. Take time for yourself. When your young it probably will be easier for you. I hope that you do post on this site. The people here are wonderful and we are here for you. Love and God Bless, Jeanne

Happy Birthday Mary Linda and many, many more. Love, Jeanne

Marsha: I do know what you are going through and many many more of us. Maybe what we are going through is actually now we are realizing that they are not coming back. In the beginning, your just in shock and the trauma of it all. Someone did tell me that if you keep on reliving what happened you cause more trauma to yourself. I told her that I was not doing this on purpose, believe me I wish it could stop. Give me a pill that will stop this. But Marsha, I do hope it gets better for you. Thank you for your email. Here is mine: jciskate@gmail.com Love and God Bless, Jeanne

Hi Kim: Happy to hear that you are settling in. Sometimes cats find their way back, so don't give up hope. Love, Jeanne

Peggy: I hope that your day went well, considerdering everything. I do find that most people just don't say anything and I kind of figure it's just that they don't know what to say. Some people, till this day, have yet to even mention my husband, his sickness or his death and how I am feeling. Most people might not agree with me, but I just don't deal with people like that. My sister-in-law the other day, and don't get me wrong, she has been wonderful to me, said that she doesn't want to talk about her brother or what's bothering me all the time. I don't bring up my grief to her all the time, but last week was an especially rough week for me. I was very depressed and down. I was reliving all of last year and it is not as though I have anybody at home to talk to except my cats (which listen better than humans). But this is what we have to deal with and there is nothing we can do, but go on with our lives as best we can and try to keep our minds on other things. I try to keep myself occupied, but there are times that all of a sudden the grieving, reliving just hit you right in the face. I will pray for you at this time in your life. Love and God Bless, Jeanne

Dear Fred: I am happy to see that as you say: "open the blinds and raise the shades". It is wonderful that you can move on and that would make your wife very happy. I think that is what we all want. I came to this site because I was grieving so bad and I had just lost my husband and I needed help, adivse, comfort and friendship. I have found all of that and more here. I am trying to move on, it is just a little hard right now. I took a little relapse this week. Just reliving too many things that happened last year. This is a wonderful site and when we see our friends not posting as often we can only hope that they are healing or have been healed. In whatever endeavor you undertake, I hope that you will be happy and that life will be good to you. Love and God Bless, Jeanne

Hi Peggy: I am so sorry about your husband and that you had to come to this site. But, if there is one place that you should come is to this site. It is something that you met your husband and eloped and would be celebrating your 39th wedding anniversary. Take solace in that it was a good marriage and you had children and grandchildren that love you. I know this is way too soon now that you lost your husband, but I do truly feel that it will get better. You will hear from many of us that will say the same thing. I lost my husband Alex 7 1/2 months ago. He was admitted to the hospital on January 28, 2008 and died June 28, 2008. Five months later. And he was in the hospital for the full five months. I went every day and sometimes all day. It is tough I know and it is hard to bear. I was married for 15 years and with him for 20. We did not have any children though. The pain does lessen, but it might not ever fully lessen. I don't really know, because it is a short time for me also. This week it has been a little hard for me. I am remember the things that happened to him last year this time. It's all about getting through one day at a time. Remember that you have very caring people here. I don't know what I would do without them. They have become my dearest friends. Love and God Bless, Jeanne

I never heard this song, but I love Josh Groban's voice and when I read the words they made me cry. I could bearly get through the words. Very beautiful. Jeanne

Mike: I barely could stay up till 1:00 anymore. I must be getting old. I remember those days of staying out and getting home late. I am glad to hear that you had such a nice time. Love and God Bless, Jeanne

Hi Mike: Hope you have a very happy birthday today and many more. Jeanne