Do You Really Think We'll See Them Again?

[emptyinside]

I've always believed in God, but these days when I hear people say things about loved ones waiting for us up there and how they're watching us until then, I get cynical and think, "What if this is something made up that we all say will happen just to make us feel better?" Of course, no one has the answer. My mind has been racing all over the place these days to some cynical and dark places. In one movie I saw a long time ago, a kid tells his father, "It's what's on the inside that counts," to which he replies, "That's just something ugly people say." Whenever I think of seeing my dad again, there's this other voice in my head that interrupts and goes, "You stupid girl. That's just something mourning people say to cope."

I miss my daddy/best friend. I really, really need to see and talk to him again. I really hope I can.

[dpodesta]

I believe with all my heart that we will see them again. I don't think of it as just something people say just to cope. No one has all the answers but the Bible does give a lot of insight. I know this, I would rather believe in Jesus and Heaven and be wrong than not to believe and everyone else be right.

Love always

Derek

[MartyT]

Em, dear ~ Here is an earlier post that you might find helpful:

Still Sad after All These Months

You might also consider doing some reading on this important topic. See, for example, the dozens of articles, books and resources listed on the Alternative Healing page of my Grief Healing Web site. Type the words After-Death Communication in Google or your preferred search engine and see what comes up for you. Go on Amazon and do the same thing. I can assure you that you are not the first person to be asking these questions ~ indeed, searching for answers to these spiritual questions is a normal and necessary part of the grief process ~ and volumes have been written by others about it. You may be very interested in learning what they've discovered and what they have to say, and you may find it very reassuring, too.

[leeann]

Yes Em I do believe we will see them again. And know I don't think it is stupid or just something people say to help them cope with a loss.

Marty posted some great ideas there for you to explore...

I would definitely urge you to seek other reading material on this topic and also on after death communications.

leeann

[mrspapajohn]

EM - - I believe that we have our loved ones in our heart. We can see them there for as long as we are here ourselves. I talk to my husband all the time. I don't believe that we have to wait until we die ourselves to see them again.

[Kathy61]

I really really do. My mom passed away August 25th 2008. Then my cousin (we come from a very close extended family) who had a brain tumor became very ill but was able to talk with us. Before he died in November 2008 he said that "Aunt Jean" came to visit and sat on his bedside and told him how wonderful everything is on the other side. His mother had died about 10 years ago visited too, but he said that my mom, Aunt Jean. Visited often telling him not to be afraid and that everything would be ok. When I was told that all doubt left.

[kath]

Thank you, Kathy.

It lifts my heart to read things like this. I believe.

Kath

[marsha]

Two days before he died, my husband "saw" his mom (dead 20 years) and sister (10 years). He said, "mom said I wasn't going to leave the hospital". Goose bump time. I really believe he saw them. It was eerie, unsettling, and mind boggling to watch my Joe start to enter another realm. I think all of our loved ones are out "there". Hugs, Marsha

[ForgottenJuliet]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know its got to be very hard to lose a parent. Thankfully I'm lucky enough to still have both of mine, knock on wood. I did, however, lose the love of my life. Im 19 years old and I know I will never find a love like the one I had. My Romeo is gone and all I have left to do is hope I will some day see him again. The only thing that stopped me from jumping in the grave with him is the thought of what happens after we die. He was murdered so, if there is a heaven and hell, he could be in heaven. If I had gone after him and committed suicide I would go to hell for sure. Its been just over a year and i still cry just about every night. I hope for both of your sakes, and many other peoples, that we will some day all be with ones we love and lost.

[Bdzack]

My mom passed away 5 years ago. She was in the hospital 2 weeks before she passed away and many times she would talk about seeing her mom (passed away more than 40 years ago) and her sisters (previously passed away) being in the room. I know they were waiting for her on the other side. My hubby passed away a little over a year ago, I have seen him in dreams, and know he is now my guardian angel…he is still around, waiting for me to get to the other side when my time comes. My father passed away when I was 10, I worried several years later…did I remember him or did I only remember pictures??? One night he came to me in a dream...we sat at the kitchen table where we lived when he was alive and we talked about whether I remembered him or not. I knew in the dream he had already passed away...but was sitting there having a conversation with me, like he did when he was alive. He reassured me that I did remember him and that he would be here for me when ever I needed him. I gave him a hug good bye and he said he had to go. I am now 51, and that memory (nearly 40 years ago) is as clear today as it would be if it just happened. You know, how easy it is to forget the specifics of the dream if you do not write it down. I never have written it down...I just remember it clearly. I am certain he came back from the other side; it was a visit, not just a dream. So.... I have no doubt we will see them again and they know what is going on here with us.

[towee]

I believe too. I just lost my father 2 weeks ago, and last week I "heard" him call me Sugar. I didn't remember that of him, until I heard it. He didn't call me that often, but once in a while. When I heard it, I knew he was there.

I think if we silence all the inner turmoil now and then, we can truly hear what is being said.

[AnnC]

I do hear my husband talk to me sometimes. I see him out of the corner of my eye. A song of ours will play when I most need it. He visits me in dreams that are so real I might call them visions instead. I know he's always around me. His nephew greatly misses him, and has found that a photo of the two of them together will fall off the shelf whenever he is missing him most. We know he's here walking beside us every day. I can feel it in my heart.

Ann

[cml1016]

My Mother passed away in February 2009, and my Uncle (my Father's twin) passed away in May 2008. My faith was rocked when we lost these two very special people in our family, but like others posted, my Mom would tell me in her final days that a loved one who has already passed came to visit her. She would also do these strange things with her hand (like she was threading a needle or reaching out to hug the air). The hospice nurse told us that from their experience, that is often a sign that someone from the other side is coming to bring them to heaven. That was comforting to me that Mom was not going lone.

A few weeks ago, I was missing Mom terribly and searching too hard for a sign - then it came to me. My nickname all my life has been Sissy - and a friend sent me this song and said that it reminded her of my Mother & I. It is titles "Sissy's Song" by Alan Jackson and the words are:

Why did she have to go

So young I just don't know why

Things happen half the time

Without reason without rhyme

Lovely, sweet young woman

Daughter, wife and mother

Makes no sense to me

I just have to believe

She flew up to Heaven on the wings of angels

By the clouds and stars and passed where no one sees

And she walks with Jesus and her loved ones waiting

And I know she's smiling saying

Don't worry 'bout me

Loved ones she left behind

Just trying to survive

And understand the why

Feeling so lost inside

Anger shot straight at God

Then asking for His love

Empty with disbelief

Just hoping that maybe

She flew up to Heaven on the wings of angels

By the clouds and stars and passed where no one sees

And she walks with Jesus and her loved ones waiting

And I know she's smiling saying

Don't worry 'bout me

It's hard to say goodbye

Her picture in my mind

Will always be of times I'll cherish

And I won't cry 'cause

She flew up to Heaven on the wings of angels

By the clouds and stars and passed where no one sees

And she walks with jesus and her loved ones waiting

And I know she's smiling saying

Don't worry 'bout me

Don't worry 'bout me

Don`t worry 'bout me

I truly believe that this was my sign that Mom is telling me that she is in Heaven and is no longer suffering. When I am really sad and missing her, I play this song and it brings me great comfort.

[leeann]

Sissy I believe that too.

And I'm so glad you get so much comfort from this song and thanks for sharing it with us.

Here, in case someone wants to hear it:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M1eLe52EH8k

(((((hugs))))))

leeann