Marj37

Hi - I know what you are saying 100%. I am so sorry your Bella had to leave you. It leaves us such an emptiness. And all that you feel is perfectly normal. In May my Gb kitty had to be let go and that was devastating. He was my soul kitty and loyal as could be. I still have hi bro and have adopted two youngsters end of August as life in this house had to become a home again. Miss Gb but his spirit is very strong in the male youngster. let us see a picture of Bella when you can.

I came across this illustrated proverb today. It is lovely.

Hi Meme, I read your loss the other night. Could not reply then as I felt so sad for you. I know the life you are now going through so well. In May I had to let my almost 15 year old Gb go. It was because of acute respiratory problems and after 48 hours in an ER in an oxygen cage they told me, and i already knew in my heart, that he had absolutely no quality of life anymore. I stayed as he took his last breaths and he was able to lift his head and sniff my head like he used to do but then he started not being able to breathe so I nodded to the vet and gave him a kiss and he left this life. It's really really hard yet even as I type those words. However, I want to say - you must force yourself to eat 3 x a day even if only a little bit, drink lots of fluids. Sleeping is very difficult for quite awhile. If you are able make sure to get some exercise like walking each day. And make sure and cry and tell your story as many times as you need to do that. here is a very good place. And I love your for doing the courageous final act of love. it's very difficult to take care of ourselves at this time - however, we must, if only as a tribute to our missing soulmate. Like your kitty, we were very bonded. There is always a super special animal that comes into our lives and connects at a very deep level. You can read about and see pictures of Gb at this link below. Of course feel free to message me if you want.

Hi Ipswitch.......my heart sure understands your loss of Gepetto. Just so hard. And we want the world to stop so things can be the way they were. Grieving our close companions is painful. I know what you mean about coming o the door.....Gb kitty was the one who always greeted me - he was waiting at the top of the side door steps when he heard the gate close or the key in the lock. And he was full of life every day until about 2 weeks before I had to let him go. And Gb slept glued to the right side of my head. We have to get accustomed to the loss of the "how" of daily life was life Gepetto not at your door or sleeping with you.. Again , I am so sorry. Be kind to yourself. This is a devastating change to your life.

Hi Copperpot, Oh my, so sorry to hear about Daisy --- on top of having lost that adorable Chester in 2015. That is an out of this world darling picture of her --- fulll of life and bouncing around your yard. What a companion to have for 11 years. Sometimes i don't have a good time with "dealing with" Gb being gone even tho it is now 7+ months. It'is good I have these 2 teen kittens even when they exhaust me to the point of , "I'm going to return you this minute".

That's all right----keep crying. We were created with tears and need to use them.

Hi Shari - purrfect place to share your loss. I'm so sorry. that is a huge huge trial to see them at the vets like that. It hurts our heart. Your baby is adorable - thanks for the pic - she has a muzzle one would love to kiss.

Hi Deedle....... That is a beautiful quote. Thanks for sharing it The tears will definitely come at times - hour after hour , day after day , or sometimes a longer space of time. But they will. It is definitely a given in our world of loving. Your husband is kind indeed. Hope Bootie is ok.

Oh - that sounds wonderful to have the murals of Tessa. So great to honor them in the way that works for us. Yes, a private time for opening and placing them will be just perfect. Even maybe light a candle on the mantel while you are doing it . AND loud crying is good! I've done plenty of it including beating on my mattress.

Hi Deedle----glad you started your thread. The people here have been amazing the weeks after I lost my Gb guy. Supportive as can be. And there is no wrong thing to write. Whatever you feel. In the long run it helps to tell about our loved one who has gone. Feelings are what they are. Neither right nor wrong. For the others of you - Deedle has been an online friend for years. And I've "watched" her with her Tessa and the other kitty guy who shares their household. Beautiful full face pic of Tessa. Just love it. And like Persie, I miss my Gb every day ---- I know his spirit guided me to these two teenage kittens which fill the house with the thunder of 8 feet. And keep Hamish interested in what is going on.

Hi Deedle Pal..........so glad you found your way to this group. I know you miss Tessa dreadfully . She was such a great companion. Much LOVE

Hi Pal........so glad you found your way to this group. All are total animals lovers . Much Love

oh, I'm so sorry to hear about Simon. I love tabbies and they look like mine did. Brothers in stripes. Simon was so young. and Charlie will miss him so much. My Hamish looked for Gb for several months after I had to have him euthanized end of May. It is heart breaking but his quality of life was zero the vets told me after 48 hours - and it is LOVE that allows us to let our precious babes go. Give Charlie good healthy attention.

Hi BJ --- you will know when it is time to foster or adopt. Step by step you have other "things" to take care of. We , here, know the loneliness of missing a beloved dog or cat; a soul kitty or dog, a heart kitty or dog. And holidays seem to amplify the pain. We are all here for you.

And I say "ditto" to KayC's post! I live alone, my cats are a super motivation to choose life each and every day. And that is how Gb was also - happy and excited about each new day.

Hi Hiena, the decisions we must make in love are a help to them. You could not let her live on in pain. It is total love to take care of them. And as my vet said to me, "Gb stayed with you as long as he could". I know that doesn't take the pain of loss away, it just gives a good perspective. I am sorry for your loss. I hope you have a picture to share with us. We like to see them. And take care of yourself during the holiday time when emotions swell and overwhelm us.

Hi Jolyne--- What an absolutely beautiful letter to your honey. Love every word of it. In fact, I think all of us here could write the same love words to the companion we have lost in whatever way they had to leave us. And add to the tremendous loss it is holiday time when we many of us don't much feel like being "merry and bright". You don't have to feel that or any other way. What is is what you go with for the hour or the day. . The memorial display of her pictures is just perfect. If you have a photo of her to share we'd love to see it.

Hi------absolutely sweet sweet picture. So sorry for your loss. Max had a super heart. And yes, holidays are most difficult with that empty space in our home and heart even with our other companions that we love. Marj

Hi James----thanks for the picture of Tilly. She was gorgeous in addition to being your loyal companion through thick and thin. And how wonderful you supplied the fox with a last meal - it must have known a trusting place to spend it's last moments in life. I know missing Tilly is hard.......I daily miss my Gb who has been gone since May 26, His brother and the teenage kittens adopted end of August are wonderful to have with me. Nontheless, there is an emptiness which I try to fill with memories. Christmas season is being hard - most everything seems to trigger tears. Take care, James

Hi James-- really so sorry you had to let your beautiful Tilly go. . What a wonderful companion she was for you. And such a lovely life you've had together. I am glad to read you were with her through the end. I was with my Gb and i wouldn't trade those minutes for anything even tho I cry as I write you. We in this group know about losses like this and love to hear your memories of Tilly. And anything you have to say. There are no right or wrong words, no right or wrong emotions. It is wrenching and unlike anything else especially when we have formed a special heart-full bond with a kitty. And make sure the other kitty gets lots of attention. Think of the hours they spent together in your home even if they were not good buddies they were companions for each other. Now she/he is alone and that is very difficult. Make sure to post a picture and tell us your stories.

Thanks, kayc My neighbor took the pic because she was outside and he was facing her yard. My most precious picture other than the two of them snuggled together.

Hi Mia.........thanks. How neat to buy that table display . of course you'd buy it. Now with a new season upon us I had to find something to commemorate missing Gb - as the seasons go by we will experience their absence. In the chilly evenings Gb and Hamish were always piled on my lap - so one lap space is empty now where I sit to watch tv in the warm den. I had switched to the living room for evening tv until now. The kits are not into lap sitting. Haven't decided where to hang the poster picture.

Thanks a heap, kayc. I am pleased you saw it. I ordered it from www. snapfish.com. I am really satisfied with their prints over the years.

Hi.........now I have the poster sized copy of my favorite picture of Gb ---- up in the grapevine on the fence looking in the nextdoor yard. My neighbor was out and ran to get her camera and he stayed right there. That was his favorite pursuit ,when he wasn't trying to get birds, was to get over the fence so I had him in a harness with a leash so I could catch him when he escaped. I sure do miss that boy in the midst of my active teen kittens and caring for Mr Hamish.

Hi Chivon......I have to say - some of the writings in my "self journal/notebook" are 2 inches high --- my "screaming" handwriting and feelings. And some things I have written over and over. I do have another love journal that I write to Gb - to keep the memories of his loving and unique personality. I an still unable to read what I've written but I keep adding to it. I needed to wait 3 months before I could adopt emotionally from the humane society --- I am loving the two teenage kits while still loving angel Gb and his brother Hamish who is still with me.