AB3 Posted January 3, 2017 Report Share Posted January 3, 2017 Never realized how alone I was until losing my fiance. I especially notice on work nights and durring the day, the times we would talk the most. Other than him I really didn't talk to anyone else (besides my mom), and honestly didn't need to he was my best friend. We talked everyday and when we didn't it didn't feel right. It has been 3 weeks and two days and the loneliness just grows more and more. On my 2:30 am break and all I want to do is text or call him.....the agony. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brad Posted January 3, 2017 Report Share Posted January 3, 2017 AB3 - Sincere hugs. You are so early into your grief and what you are going through isolates you even more. I'm really hoping you might be able to find someone you can talk to, to share with, to help find a modicum of peace. It is so very hard when you lose that one person who makes your world so wonderful. Many people never find it and hence will never get it when that one is wrenched away. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KATPILOT Posted January 3, 2017 Report Share Posted January 3, 2017 True words indeed Brad. AB3 the one we love the most is truly also our best friend. He was the one you could say anything to and you could listen to him as well. Listen to him now for he hears you and it's okay to speak to him. Many of us do that. It was once suggested to me in my early days along this journey that I write a letter to my wife. That I could send an anniversary card and such. That's kind of what I am speaking to. I like to think Kathy read what I wrote even before it arrived in my mailbox. I needed to express the most intimate thoughts. Weather she heard me or not it was for me as well as her. I needed to talk to my best friend. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brat#2 Posted January 3, 2017 Report Share Posted January 3, 2017 4 hours ago, KATPILOT said: It was once suggested to me in my early days along this journey that I write a letter to my wife. That I could send an anniversary card and such. That's kind of what I am speaking to. I like to think Kathy read what I wrote even before it arrived in my mailbox. I needed to express the most intimate thoughts. Weather she heard me or not it was for me as well as her. I needed to talk to my best friend. I have an ongoing letter written to Dale that I started in the beginning and just keep adding to it. I haven't mail it to him, but it is saved on my computer and I also like to think that he has been reading it as I go along with it. Sometimes you do just need to talk to your best friend and the letter really helps me. Joyce 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AB3 Posted January 3, 2017 Author Report Share Posted January 3, 2017 Thank you everyone that is a great suggestion. I actually thought about writing a letter so I definitely may do that. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted January 3, 2017 Report Share Posted January 3, 2017 Joyce, I have a computer file called Letters to George, it's one file I keep adding to. Of course I talk to him all the time too. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brat#2 Posted January 3, 2017 Report Share Posted January 3, 2017 Kay, I talk to Dale all the time too. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gin Posted January 3, 2017 Report Share Posted January 3, 2017 I have an ongoing letter to Al, also. I started it written in verse for the first few months, but that was so much work. Now it is just talking. Last week, I asked him if I told him how much I loved him. Reminded me of the OLD song, "Have I Told You Lately That I Love you?". That song ran thru my mind all day. Willie Nelson, Eddie Arnold. "My heart would break in two if I would lose you" ... 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted January 3, 2017 Report Share Posted January 3, 2017 "Have I told you lately that I love you? Well, darling, I'm telling you now." A beautiful song, Gin ~ My mother used to sing it to me when I was little, and I remember it well. Thanks for the memory ~ and of course, now it's running through my mind as well. ♥ 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gin Posted January 3, 2017 Report Share Posted January 3, 2017 Marty, There are different versions of the words. One says "my heart would break in two if you refuse me" and the other is "my heart would break in two if I would lose you". I pick the second one . I spent several hours listening to different artists singing it. There is a newer song with different melody and words. And of course I had problems with my iPad volume. Gave me something to do for a few hours in the middle of the night. I do love the song. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted January 3, 2017 Report Share Posted January 3, 2017 I remember the Eddie Arnold version, Gin, on a single 78 rpm record. My mother loved his singing, and I did, too. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 4, 2017 Report Share Posted January 4, 2017 Not that this has anything to do with the subject of grief, but I always liked Eddie Arnold's "Cattle Call". Fun to listen to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marie Lee Posted January 4, 2017 Report Share Posted January 4, 2017 The loneliness does amplify when we lose our significant other...No doubt.. Peace, Marie 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AB3 Posted January 4, 2017 Author Report Share Posted January 4, 2017 Yes Marie it does. Don't think I could ever get use to it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marie Lee Posted January 4, 2017 Report Share Posted January 4, 2017 AB3, I can relate...and agree... I got good news today from the neuro surgeon...my disc is not touching the nerve so no surgey needed for my back, yay...And then there is..,just ..me....Sigh...what am I happy for? Going to try to sleep...peace, Marie 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kevin Posted January 4, 2017 Report Share Posted January 4, 2017 It's about 18 months ago when I joined this fraternity, and I still talk to Angela....But when I'm depressed, I do reach out to family with a text..... 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gin Posted January 4, 2017 Report Share Posted January 4, 2017 Marie, Great news that you will not need surgery. You are happy that you will not have to deal with surgery on top of the grief. Peace to you. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marie Lee Posted January 4, 2017 Report Share Posted January 4, 2017 Good point Gin....thanks :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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