Jan Thurman Posted October 8, 2008 Report Share Posted October 8, 2008 I am at a loss and I don't think I'm in the mood to ask them the question. My husband and I were always going over to his brother and wife's house for dinner. They would come over our house for dinner. We would go out to dinner. They would stop buy to see us and us the same. Then my husband died. It was 7 months October 4th. They only live 15 minutes away. They have been over my house once for about 10 minutes since he died. They have never asked me over for dinner. They have never asked if I wanted to join them out to dinner with other relatives. I have not had anyone over for dinner as I am not in the mood to cook for a dinner group yet. They do not call. My husband was always over there house helping them as they are retired and so was he whereby I work. I think my husband would have felt his brother would have looked out for me and asked if there was anything that I needed help with as I live on 1-1/2 acres. But he has never asked me anything. I have seen them at family functions over the 7 month period (funeral, birthday party, graduation) and we have fun together. I put on a good front when I am there and go home and cry because I missed my husband at the occassion. My brother-in-law did stop by the other day. He would not come in stood out on the patio. Wanted to borrow my husbands crab pot. Did not give me a hug and ask how are you doing. I started talking about I've been feeling a little down lately and all he did was start backing up to leave. So is it just me or does this happen to other people. I am of the feeling that I am the grieving window here and I shouldn't be the one to call, ask them to dinner, or go over there. Thanks for listening. Jan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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