Boo Mayhew Posted September 16, 2009 Report Share Posted September 16, 2009 I've finally got round to scanning and uploading the Eulogy that I wrote for Cliff on my blog. Unfortunately one of the pages (page 10) won't work ...so, if you'd like to read it ...please click here (you need to click on each thumbnail to enlarge so that you can read them!):http://boomayhew.blogspot.com/2009/09/cliffs-eulogy.htmland when you get to page 10, click here:http://boomayhew.blogspot.com/2009/09/if-y...here-it-is.htmland then go back to the original link.Hope that made sense!I honestly believe that writing this, at the time, preserved my sanity. Today, it gives me comfort to know that I did my best for him. Wishing you all peace and strengthxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fredzgirl Posted September 16, 2009 Report Share Posted September 16, 2009 Thank you for sharing, Boo. Your love for him emanates from the pages of Cliff's eulogy. It's a wonderful tribute. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryo Posted September 16, 2009 Report Share Posted September 16, 2009 Hi Boo,The Eulogy that you wrote for your husband was absolutely beautiful. Thank-you for sharing it with us.Mary Lou Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrspapajohn Posted September 16, 2009 Report Share Posted September 16, 2009 Boo - - Your writing may have helped you, but it also has helped us - immensely. Thank you.Kathy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marsha Posted September 16, 2009 Report Share Posted September 16, 2009 Boo - it's the story of your life with Cliff - beautiful, and I thank you for sharing it - Love, marsha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted September 16, 2009 Report Share Posted September 16, 2009 You are so gifted, you really should write a book...you did a beautiful job! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kath Posted September 17, 2009 Report Share Posted September 17, 2009 Boo,Thank you for sharing this. I feel like I know Cliff (and you) a little better. He sounds absolutely wonderful and how fortunate that you were able to have someone so special take you for his wife. I can see how you were a match made in heaven. Hold onto your mantra. (I thought that was pretty fantastic, too.)Kath Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Mayhew Posted September 17, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 17, 2009 Thank you everyone for the lovely comments.I was SO lucky to have been loved by him, and can still feel that love.Am off to my school reunion weekend tomorrow, so will be back here on Sunday night or Monday xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeanneC Posted September 17, 2009 Report Share Posted September 17, 2009 Hi Boo:Your eulogy to Cliff was just beautiful. You two must have had a wonderful life together.You are very special. Thank you for sharing.Love,Jeanne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Mayhew Posted September 17, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 17, 2009 so are you Jeanne xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeeGee Posted September 17, 2009 Report Share Posted September 17, 2009 Beautiful, just beautiful.DeeGee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
valley Posted September 19, 2009 Report Share Posted September 19, 2009 Boo,This was the Cliff who was smart enough to share his life with his wonderful Boo.The love, humour and understanding you expressed in Cliff's Eulogy is so fine. Thank you for sharing it.Valley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laurieb Posted September 20, 2009 Report Share Posted September 20, 2009 BooIt was so beautiful and so heartfelt. You have many gifts and one of them was the blessing of your marriage to such a wonderful man.Thank you for sharing that with uslaurie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Mayhew Posted September 21, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 21, 2009 thanks DeeGee HUGS xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Mayhew Posted September 21, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 21, 2009 Valley, thanks so much - that is a lovely thing to say, and I loved that you wrote it that way :-) xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Mayhew Posted September 21, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 21, 2009 thanks LaurieB, I was so lucky to have shared 15 wonderful years ... the best days of my life :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Korina Posted September 25, 2009 Report Share Posted September 25, 2009 Boo: Amazing. What a wonderful couple you were and are. Korina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Mayhew Posted September 25, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 25, 2009 Korina, how are you? Don't think I've seen your name on the boards for a while. xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Korina Posted September 26, 2009 Report Share Posted September 26, 2009 Korina, how are you? Don't think I've seen your name on the boards for a while. xxx Boo: I am hangin' in there. Kailyn and I just returned from Montreal, where we were visiting Scott's family for about 3 weeks. We stayed with his mom, and I had very limited internet access (when I went to my sister-in-law's for dinner) . This is so hard for her, as she lost her husband early, 18 years ago. Scott was such a total shock, as we lived on different ends of the country (big distance in Canada), and I had really kept Scott's addiction a secret from our families - fairly typical for a 'codependent', as I now understand. Not so much in the last while, but I had really only involved Scott's uncle, and he preferred not to tell the rest of the family as he didn't think they could really help. And while they probably couldn't have helped, it was a mistake to keep them in the dark, as much for their sakes as for Scott's. For anyone who is listening and may be in a similar situation, keeping secrets, while it may seem best at the time, it is not. Scott's sister came back with us for a few days to help out with Kailyn (plus, no doubt because she finds it hard to let go of Kailyn - the last part of Scott living, and because we have become quite close, though the cirumstances suck). It is amazing how many people adore our little girl - going to have to make sure she doesn't get spoiled....but as our Bubbie says (another grandmother by choice, not blood - she has a quite a few relatives by choice!), you cannot spoil a child with love. It has been over 3 months, now. Today was a really tough day. Maybe because we are back at home. But it all seemed so real, so very suddenly. Another kick in the guts. I had known intellectually while he was drinking that things could end badly, and while I had imagined scenarios, I don't think I ever really believed in my heart they could happen. This really was just a hurdle we needed to clear (who doesn't have hurdles?). I could have gone another 50 years without finding out what it means to feel this in my heart. And all the woulda shoulda couldas. Anyhow, I could go on and on, but I would like to read over other entries I have missed. Thanks for asking. Korina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Mayhew Posted September 26, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 26, 2009 My heart goes out to you Korina, I know what it is like to come home and not find him there. Take it one step at a time and know that we are thinking of you and care. xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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