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Katie, you are!! gin

Mitch,. It really hurts, doesn't it? I miss Al so much and have not really succeeded in finding much meaning in my life. I try everyday to connect with people hoping I can make a difference somewhere, somehow. I am still married to Al. Oh, if we could only have our old life back. Gin

Katie, the time thing is so weird. It seems like it happen a hour ago and then it seems like forever since I saw him. Thinking of you.

Gwen,. If at all possible, I would be so happy to phone you. You could send me a private message with your number. I know I can not fix anything, but sometimes just talking to another human helps. Your choice. It is so horribly hard to be so alone. Hope you get the help you need and get back home soon. Gin

Tom,. I understand that loneliness is terrible. If you can find another, go for it. I do not think anything like that is possible for me. I am 79. I am very lonely and miss Al so much. I had the best for me and will be content with that. I miss the physical love we shared. I think it is great that you have that immediate connection. My only advice would be that you take it slowly to be sure. You are right...grieving plus relationship issues would be a disaster for you. Others on this site have found love again. You will figure out the distance problems. Wishing you well!! Gin

Joyce,. Thinking about you today. I know how hard it is to think that no one else remembers their birthday. It was and is so important to us.

Hi Gwen, i feel so bad for you. I know how lonely and totally alone you feel. I stayed with Al all the times he was hospitalized and he stayed with me when I had my gall bladder out and there were complications. Just to have him at home when I got out was such a comfort. We worked so hard to make each other comfortable. Now there is no one. I know how hard it is. I understand not wanting to be sedated. Wishing you well tomorrow with the scoping. Hope they get the right treatment started and you feel better soon. I know you have not felt well for a long time. I will be thinking of you and praying for you. Gin

Peggy is in my prayers, as well as you. Hope the surgery is a success.

I fthink a lot of us feel that way. I felt so bad that I was not as patient with Al the last few weeks. And that I did not get another opinion for his health care. And I did not understand everything the doctors did/did not do. I questioned a lot, but always felt that somehow I let him down. I can not say that I am over the guilt. I think over time, I just accepted that we are by no means perfect and have to forgive everyone - the docs, hospitals and most importantly us. I am sure they have forgiven us.

RSo very, very sorry for all your family has been through.

This is the third birthday I have had without Al. They used to be so special. He would write a beautiful poem and make me a card. Always go somewhere for dinner. Celebrate with family. Things sure are different, and I miss him so very much.

Polly, so very sorry to hear what has happened to your daughter. It is a miracle she survived. Of course she wants her dad...and so do you. These events stress the fact that our loved one is missed so very much. I wish her the best and hope she heals completely and soon! Gin

Gwen,. Whenever I get a new prescription, I am afraid to take it. Many times I never do. When we are alone, things sure are different.

So sorry, Gwen. This aloneness is the pits. Sure hope things improve overnight. I have bad bouts with sciatica and do exercises to TRY to help a little. I know that having Steve there would have made all the difference.

Beautiful, Joyce. All the little things we all miss, as well as the obvious big things.

Cookie,. So very sorry for the loss of your treasured Olive! One loss after another! Gin

Marg, you sure look good!

Marg,. Al left this earth about 2 weeks before Billy. Oct. 4, 2015. Sure does not seem possible that I survived this long without him. It sure is a hard journey!

Cookie,. Same place as you. Nothing seems worth doing. I am also reading the Soulmate book. I am really trying to do suggested things...exercise 5-6 times a week, journaling, accept invites. Still pretty miserable. Part of the problem is my age and physical issues. I am surprised that I still try. The loneliness is torture. I do not have any pets any more. After our last dog died, I wanted another. Al was almost blind by then and we were afraid that he would trip over a dog. Maybe it is time to look. I had a bad winter last year so hope I can deal with taking a dog out. But, maybe it woul be an incentive.

Mitch,. What a lousy time for you. I worry about having plumbing problems and electrical ones. WHO WOULD I CALL? Who can you trust? So much easier when we had our partners with us.

Ana,Cookie and Joyce...I am in your club. Al will be gone 3 years next October. The joy is gone and no hope of getting more. We did everything together. Our lives were so entwined. Most of the time I am so very lonely. Life seems pointless.

Tom,. My heart goes out to you. These days are so hard!

Kay,. Nice pic. Thoughts are with you today. Hope you are also feeling better.

Kay, . Hope you start feeling better soon!

Tom,. Al and I used to go to LOTS of plays and concerts. We were fortunate because we lived in an area with lots of theaters. We went to over 600 in the 16 years we were together. How many have I gone to since Al died?? Zero. That was OUR thing. Have no desire to go without him