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My thoughts are with you today, sending you hugs!

Polly, oh my goodness, that looks awful and so sorry this happened. You both are in my thoughts and prayers that she recovers quickly. Hugs

Tom, their birthdays are so hard (along with all the other days of the year!) You are in my thoughts today, hugs.

Thank all of you for your kind responses. I know all of us are going through our own struggles, whether it's emotional, physical or both and it's so easy to forget you are not the only one and that you are not alone. This site is wonderful in helping you to not feel alone. Gwen, I know most days I don't feel strong, but when you think about it, we are ALL strong each in our own way to get through another day. Hugs, Joyce

Right after Dale passed away, I started a letter to him. I've been keeping it going and write to him on special occasions and just when something happens. It somehow makes feel more connected to him, even though I talk to him all the time. Today has been 3 years since he left this life and I'm sure you all know what I'm talking about and know how I feel, so here is a little part of what I wrote him today: "Sure the holidays, birthdays, anniversary are hard without you, but it's the little "everyday" things that you did that I miss the most. The way you would come up behind me and give me a hug when I was cooking or doing the dishes; when we were watching TV at night and sitting on our respective couches depending on which way I was facing you, you would lay your hand on my arm or hold my foot; when we would go for a motorcycle ride or to friends for a BBQ, I would french braid my long hair down to my neck and you would finish braiding the rest of my hair (regular braiding) so that I would have a nice even straight braid (cause I hated crooked braids); you would always hold my hand when we were walking through a parking lot into a store or when we were in a crowded place; when I was working outside the home, you would call me when you got home from work always earlier than me to let me know you were home and that you loved me; when I started working from home and would be in my office working, I would catch you peeking around the door jam watching me work; how proud and excited you would be when I got an award at work or finished some craft thing I had been working on; you would always find me no matter what I was doing, even sleeping, to kiss me goodbye when you left the house no matter how long you were going to be gone; when you came home you would immediately say "Hi Brat" when you walked in the door; you teasing me, hearing your great one liners and the nick names you use to call me; I would catch you just looking at me for no reason (at the time that would drive me crazy) but sure miss it now. There are so many more that made up our daily life (but hard to remember and write down through the tears)that made me feel special, loved, adored and wanted. I would give anything to have all that back, to hear your voice, see your face, feel your touch, but all I can do now is love you with all my heart, miss you with all my heart and soul and hope that I will see you again someday. I was hoping that moving closer to your girls and my family would make things easier and I would feel less lonely and mean something to someone and in some ways it has, but you are not here and I guess, even though it's been 3 years, it's still too soon to feel from others the love and comfort that I felt from you. I know you would love the new place and that you would be happy that I'm closer to family and in a safer environment, but I really wish you could be here" I sure do miss him!!

Cookie, I'm so sorry, I know how much it hurts to lose a fur baby. Hugs, Joyce

Ana and Cookie, it will be year 3 for me in 10 days and I just wanted to say I can relate to what both of you said. It is as if I wrote what I'm feeling in what you both said myself. I just hope there is some hope out there eventually too. Hugs, Joyce

You are in my thoughts today Kay, (hope you are feeling better) Hugs

Hope you feel better soon and hope the meds start working. Sending you hugs!

Cookie, I know exactly what you are feeling and saying. Sending you hugs and will be thinking of you. Joyce

Marie You are in my thoughts today as these "certain" dates are so hard no matter how long it has been. Hope you find a little peace and comfort today, Hugs!, Joyce

Your in my thoughts, sending you hugs.

Gwen I completely get it and understand the pain and how it feels when you see things like that. When I unpacked my evacuation boxes (that I had packed a month after Dale left and was still numb) here at my new place, it was very difficult and even though I was crying looking at everything (cards, letters, pictures) I couldn't keep myself from doing it. Sending you hugs, Joyce

Hugs my friend

Robin, you are in my thoughts today as I know it is a day you don't want to remember. Hoping you find a little peace today.

Mitch, I know today is hard and I really don't feel I can say "Happy" birthday, but I do hope you find a little peace today and can find good memories to dwell on. Hugs!

Gin, I can totally relate. It's been almost 6 months since I moved into my new place and I have almost gotten everything unpacked and put where I want it. The past couple of weeks though have been the hardest, I've been unpacking my evacuation boxes that I put together the month after Dale died. I put all pictures I had of him and other loved ones that are gone in one box, the other boxes had our "stuff" from when we did things or went somewhere, plus important papers. I wanted to make sure that I had all those items with me if I had to leave cause of the weather (which I did have to evacuate 3 times in 2 years by myself). When I put those boxes together it was so soon after his death that I was still in shock and numb and it wasn't that hard. Well going through them this time, almost 3 years later, has been some of the hardest 2 weeks I've had, a lot of tears. I still have one more box, but I'm putting it off for a little bit, I'm just plain worn out. Hugs to you

So sorry Gin, that had to hurt. It's bad enough when we are still getting mail for them and I can't believe that I'm now getting mail for Dale at my new place, his name is not on anything here, so I guess the post office gave out the new address as if he is still alive! Like was said above, I'm sure the man didn't mean to hurt you and had forgotten that Al is no longer here, but even that hurts. Sending hugs!

Oh my Mitch and Kay, so glad both of you are ok and made it through your scary day. Sending hugs your way.

Thinking of you today, Tom. Hope you can find a little peace today.

Mary Beth, thank you for sharing, it's absolutely beautiful.

You are in my thoughts today, George, hope you can find a little peace today.

Gwen, I've had some of those same feelings, wondering if he ever really existed, wishing I could erase him from my mind, but I know that you don't want to do that with Steve, any more than I want to do that with Dale. You did have a life with him and he did exist and I know how much it hurts to think of him and to know he is never coming through that door. Just last night I was awake all night long thinking of Dale and the times we had and all the things he did and wished it wasn't in the past tense, but I got out of bed this morning to start my day alone again. I'm hoping your day is a little better today and am hoping that you can find a little relief soon. Sending you all the hugs I can.

Happy Birthday Marty, hope you are having a wonderful day!! Hugs

So sorry Allen and Katie, your family is in my thoughts and prayers.