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That was me yesterday, so I know exactly how you feel. Not having someone to talk with or cry with is really hard, but coming here does help. If I hadn't found this forum, I would probably be in an institution by now, so keep coming back, keep posting, the people here do care and it does help. Joyce

Darrel, I have days like that too. No particular reason just really miss my Dale. You are right, I don't think this grief crap is ever going to end and it's because we did love our soulmates deeply and completely and I guess for that privilege that is the price we pay. We just need to keep on going until we see them again. Joyce

Maynard, this is a time when we can feel rejected very easily. Sometimes people just don't know what to say, especially me, even though we do know what you are feeling, the best we can do is show that we read your post with the reputation button, but that doesn't mean we don't know where you are coming from. Looking into a local support group is good, hope you can find one that suits you. Please continue to come here and post, this group has kept me going and even though I may not post much, I read everyday and appreciate this groups caring way. Joyce

Darrel, my grandma use to say those exact quotes all the time too. The was another one that my mother used to tell me, since my mouth tends to turn down and I look like I'm mad or sad when I'm not, she use to tell me "just think that you are smiling and your lips will tend to go up, that you way don't look sad all the time". It was good advise, but right at this moment a little hard to do sometimes. Hugs Joyce

Darrel, glad to see you back and so sorry you were/are having all those problems on top of dealing with this grief thing. It does seem to be never ending, doesn't it? Joyce

Cookie, I'm so sorry for the loss of your fur baby. I can't imagine how hard that must be. You are in my thoughts and sending you hugs. Joyce

Mitch I know exactly how you are feeling. I've been going through some major expensive things around the house and trying to make a major decision, so I get where you are coming from when you have to do this alone. Of course, if Dale were here, I wouldn't be having to make these decisions and he would have handled the things around the house. Hugs to you Mitch. Joyce

I know exactly how you feel, your are in my thoughts. Hugs Joyce

Kay, glad to hear your surgery is done and went okay. Take things easy and get the rest you need and hope your recovery goes quickly. Sending you big hugs! Joyce

George so glad you and your family are safe. There is nothing more scary than weather situations. Take care. Joyce

Gin, I'm so sorry you are having such a lousy day. Hope the plumber can get there today, you definitely didn't need that on top of the tooth. You are in my thoughts and hope you feel better soon. Hugs Joyce

Kay, that sounds painful. You are and will be in my thoughts and prayers. Joyce

Gwen and Kay, I feel the same way, that I must have made Dale up in my mind. I too, look at his belongings that says he was here and real, but yet it doesn't feel that way. It is so very difficult to get your brain and heart to work together and have the same feelings most of the time. If this was/is a dream.....I want to wake up!!! Joyce

Marg - don't go, I need your word salads every day! Karen - I too am here every day, reading, but I don't comment much, but that doesn't mean I don't care and worry about every one of you. I consider you all friends that completely understand what I'm going through and I would be lost without any of you. I hope that we all can find some peace some day. Hugs Joyce

Brad I'm at twenty months and 5 days and you so much described my life right now. I too, am constantly 2nd guessing myself on decisions I'm having to make and I didn't have that problem the first year or so. The only thing I can think of is the longer that we are without our loves and not hearing their influence and strength, it makes it more difficult to make decisions. I'm not really sure even if there was a way to prepare for this grief madness, it would make it any easier. I know you will have a great time on your trip and the excitement will come, but don't worry or struggle with trying to make the excitement come now, I think it will only make your anxiety worse and you don't need that (I know easier said than done!). Sending you hugs Joyce

Gin, I completely understand what you are saying about music. It was a big part of our lives and I still can't listen to music (even when it comes on the TV, I turn the channel) without crying and feeling so sad that Dale isn't here to enjoy it with me. I'm hoping someday I will find comfort in music, but not yet. Hugs to you. Joyce

You are in my thoughts Kay and sending hugs and prayers to all of you. Joyce

Me too Marty, I heard it on Madam Secretary and wanted to write it down but by the time I got to pen and paper, I had forgotten it. Thank you Dave for sharing that, it is so true. Joyce

Mitch - you are in my thoughts and know that Tammy knows all that you do. Sending you hugs Joyce

Gin, you are in my thoughts today and I know exactly how you feel. Hugs Joyce

George, my thoughts and prayers will be with you and your sister.

Gwen, don't have much more to say than I know how you feel. Hugs Joyce

How true that is Mitch. Hugs to you Joyce

Gin, beautifully put and so true. I miss him too. Joyce

George, you are in my thoughts today and sending you hugs. Joyce