Widowedbysuicide

Thanks for sharing this precious image?

Thanks for sharing some more of your life and love with Tammy, Mitch. I wish that the story had a fairytale ending. But, somehow I don't think your story is over yet ❤.

Your sister hasn't a clue George. You got all the compassion and she got you. Me thinks she got the best deal. I think you are a gem. I definitely would love to have a family member who has even 1% of your understanding and compassion. Your beautiful bride would be so unhappy seeing you treated so poorly. My naughty self said to tell you that your sister might get the message if you told her that if her attitude and behaviour don't improve you are going to trade her in for a better sister. My nice self says that I should not encourage naughty behavior. I do hope she wakes up some morning soon and realises how great you are towards her and your Dad. ? Be well George, sending hugs and prayers.

Butch I do hope you will have time to care for yourself. At the pace you are going I worry that you will wear yourself down to nothing. Your strength does not fade when you take a break- it's like maintenance on a car. You have to take it in once in awhile to keep it in good running order. If your oil gums up or runs dry you can cook the engine and none of us here want that for you. I hope you can take a time that will refresh you and allow you to do the grief work that you've been forced to hold back. Big hugs to you ?

Sorry your Granddaughter hurts, not nice with everything else for her and you. Keys are a dirty word for me. I think maybe they have the same magnetic field as me because the seem to be as far away from me as they can possibly get. It's almost Friday! Not that it means much anymore. Anyway, take care.

George I think your sister is ungrateful. She has become very reliant on you. You are a very generous and compassionate person and you deserve to be appreciated more than this kind of behaviour. I wish you were my brother, I've never had one but I sure think you would be great! I hope you can work things out so that you are appreciated and so that your sister becomes aware of all you do for family.

Hmmm, Dunkin' Donuts eh? None of them here in Canada but Tim Hortons is our version. And yes, all the good and not so good cops go there ? You are doing some big jobs Mitch. I've been doing many smaller ones and I don't really have much interest in doing them. I don't have the money to pay someone else to do all the small things as I'm trying to save for a much needed bathroom renovation. A friend that drops by often has noticed my finished tasks/works of art LOL. She says that it looks great and she wonders if I feel good about making the place mine. I feel good that things are better but as far as it reflecting my choices and work, not so much. I often wonder what Gord would think. My mark on things is to simplify everything as much as possible. Unfortunately there is no lack of things to do here so my social schedule is a thing of the past. Moving hay has been a chore that had me tumbling today. Luckily I grabbed a hold before I hit the concrete floor. The bales are 80 lbs. and stacking them 4 rows high is a real life workout! The good cop said should keep my cell phone in my pocket when I do this kind of thing. ? Best of luck and safety on your jobs Everyone!

I wonder if there is something in the air these last few months. When I read things or hear them I almost always get the interpretation wrong. Is it the place I'm in on this journey? Am I over sensitive to what is going on around me? Some of the threads on here have struck me in ways that have provoked me to feeling protective. Some have me wondering what is wrong with me. I too have the good cop / bad cop stuff going on in my head. I have so many more questions than I have answers or solutions. I think better when I live better; adequate food, shelter and sleep make a huge difference. The good cop has to keep reminding me what I need, the bad cop just waits til I screw up and then imprisons me in my personal hell. Today is fresh and new. I wonder where the good cop goes for coffee. Have the best day you can ? ?

I have missed your posts Mitch. I like the way you present your thoughts, feelings and ideas. I appreciate the effort you make in being real and in wanting to interact with members. I would very much miss your posts if you were not commenting here. I've said it before and it remains true for me, you have helped me tremendously in your positivity. Please keep posting here ?

Sorry you aren't doing too great Marg. My communication line with hubby seems to be out of order too.

I'm sorry things didn't work out as you wanted. So much love and hard work... I hope the new beginning that you and Steve have ahead of you will be filled with great times.

Too many sad days for us all. I don't know how to convey how much I would like to boost everyone up. Please all, just know that my heart is here with each me of you.

I am so sorry things have turned out this way. I will miss you and always wonder how/where you are. Hugs to you ?

Take care Kay. Sorry you are injured.

George thank you for always knowing what to say. Your comments are so encouraging and supportive. I wish I could be as faithful and graceful as you are. Big hugs to you for being so understanding ?

I'm sorry that Memorial Day was difficult for you this year Nightwinds. I can definitely understand the meaning the day had for you. ? Hugs to you. The loss of a great spouse is hard. I never imagined it would be as it is. Your cat child is mourning his loss too. ? My husband passed on a Tuesday and his cat followed him later in the week. She was elderly he was not. It slammed me back hard when I had to say goodbye to her after many good years and great memories. She loved to swing on the lawn swing with him and ride on the hood of the tractor. The last photo he took was a picture of his shadow on the barn wall. He was leaning on a fence rail and right by his arm was the shadow of Katie Cat. A strange but ultimately beautiful photo. In 2016 I had to say goodbye to two horses ? and some of our unnamed barn cats. It was a very difficult year. So much loss from death... I hope for your cat to rally and have some great days to come. Autum 2 my heart goes out to you as well ? Our pets are such a huge part of our lives ?.

You are a great brother George ?

Hugs to you. ? Do look after yourself.

Thank you for sharing that beautiful picture and for the joyous news Praying for happier days to come. Hugs to you Butch.

I'm not pointing fingers: I said we because at times we all day and do things that may hurt others. I may have done so myself and I honestly apologize for poor behavior. @Marg M you are not the reason I made my post. I'm really sorry you felt that it was you. I have absolutely no desire to cause anyone any pain. I see that you are very quick to take responsibility for things that you feel you have done and I don't want you to feel singled out - that would be disrespectful and mean on my part. I'm sorry you felt the way you did. We each are entitled to our options and all I'm asking is that we treat each other as we would want to be treated. We all need a little kindness.

I think most people mean well in the comments and suggestions here. But personally I think Finch is in alot of pain and not all of what a being said is done so in a gentle way. Perhaps we could take a moment to review our comments and ask ourselves if the responses would be hurtful if directed at ourselves. I am not comfortable with this thread in that as a person who is grieving and questioning everything in my life I find some things very insensitive. Please, let's be kinder towards each other. If we are hurting someone who is fragile and sensitive by way the presentation of information/opinion and not by the actual meaning of the comment does that make us any less a bully? I just think we are here out of need for something to hang onto and some kindness is owed to Finch. Just as it is owed to each one of us when words have been hard. Take my post for what it is. If we can not be respected equally then we are not the people who I hoped/believed we were/are. Marita

I think what hurts the most is that it's FAMILY that does this. Strangers seem to be so much more patient and giving at these devastating times. Sorry for your heartbreak @JaseScott. I do hope that things will improve soon. @Nightwinds I'm going through a financial sh_t storm with family and am on the losing end. All the loss since his passing has been awful. I wish I had your grace. Hugs ? to you.

How are you Finch? I've been missing you here. Like Kay, I'm inquisitive. I would want to see anything. As for a change in my perception I don't know. I hope whatever you decide works out well for everyone.

My thoughts are with your family. An extra prayer will not hurt. Hugs ?

I FEEL FOR YOU Gwen. Losing our loved ones is so damaging and difficult in itself, but adding health issues to our grief is like a slow painful death. I have suffered with depression and anxiety for most of my life but since my husband's death it has been so much worse. Trying to find things to look forward to has been impossible. Each day is a one foot in front of the other day but I keep plodding along. At nearly 16 month I'm exhausted dealing with making decisions about finances, I should say the lack of, and problems with my home and property. I continue to have trouble with what family there is and with people that I thought were friends. I've had so much loss since January 5, 2016 that it is overwhelming for me. Financially my husband had not worked for a year and we had started a small home based business so money was scarce. Mostly I don't know if I'm coming or going. I know some people would be able to walk through my troubles and grief with grace and a brighter spirit and that knowledge makes me feel worse. We are all individuals who manage/deal with things in different ways but FOR ME THIS LIFE IS TOO HARD! I often feel like there are far more reasons to give up than to keep going... But, every once in awhile something happens that resets my mental status. Those momentary glimmers are often seeing joy in the eyes of other people; particularly in children and the elderly. I'm hanging on to those glimmers. When I'm feeling done I think of the look in their eyes. I want to see that when I look in a mirror. I really hope that you will find something that gives you that glimmer. That tiny moment gives me the desire to keep looking for more glimmers and I wish that for you too.