Gwenivere Posted May 26, 2020 Report Share Posted May 26, 2020 I was thinking of Steve’s and my relationship. The relationships we both had before we came into each other’s lives. Obviously there was something that made this 'the one'. I was trying to figure out a way to describe it when I had my counseling today and it hit me. There are so many things that happened as it is for everyone, but what would be the word(s) I’d use to just describe the essence. For us, it was fire. Other relationships were fine at the time, but they didn’t make me feel that. Whenever I was around him I felt a burning inside and the way we interacted reflected that. Nothing subtle about us. We didn’t do romantic dates or 'woo'ing'. It was intense I thought it would burn out eventually and we’d move on. I didn’t feel thoughts of love towards Steve at the time. It was lust and fire. Found out we were the same in our passions of what was important in life. We started becoming friends. The more we learned about each other the stronger that bond grew. I had no plans to marry him. When he said we should I was hesitant but thought let’s play this out. It was just to good to be true. I didn’t want to fall in love because I knew I’d never find this again. But my heart made a different decision. Flash forward 31 years and there we were. The fire never died. We were never conventional. Even in doing everyday things it felt intense. Disagreements were low keyed as we learned how to hear each other, but the fire burned. Good times were so much more intense. So I watched other marriages and saw we were so very different. I watched other pairs closely and was so glad we were always aflame. I had others tell me they saw it when they were with us. I know that is why I feel so cold inside now. It’s embers in reality, but inside I keep trying to strike that match. Can’t be done without him. All people are different. Some thrive on romance and gentility. I’m just throwing this out there to see how others might define their relationship if they want to. I know everyone here’s loss is a huge as mine. We’ve al been robbed of 'the one'. 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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