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Lucia, I am sorry you are going through so much at this time. I will keep you in my prayers. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Linda, You asked a great question "Why did this happen to us." It's ok to take a day off because our body tells us to take a break.I tell myself to take one day at a time. I lost my husband 14 months ago and I still have many questions unanswered. I hope your religion, and family is a great comfort to you as it has been to me. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Korina, I hope the next few days will remain calm and peaceful for you. Enjoy your time with your daughter. Children are truly a gift. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Linda, I am glad that you have good support from your friends and family. Most people have never experienced the kind of loss that we have so they don't understand.But sad to say one day they might and then they will understand and only then will they know the true meaning of our grief. I am so thankful to Marty for allowing me to find people who are so caring and understand on this site. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Bam, I am sorry for your loss. After 47 years you must have many beautiful memories that will help you on this grieving journey.Just take one day at a time and don't try to accomplish to much in the beginning. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Linda, I am sorry about the loss of your fiance Brian.This site has been very helpful to me. There are alot of kind and compassionate people here who understand all the pain that we must go through in order to heal.I am glad you have support from your family. This journey is long and hard but time does help. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Lucia, Later on in my evening I stopped for a moment and realized that I did not spend the whole day thinking about my husband. I also have not cried today. Tomorrow might be different but it felt good for today. It does not mean we forget but to me it shows I am healing, so yes a time will come when you don't spend the whole day crying.It took my daughter a while to mention her Dad because she was grieving also and she needed time. Cutting down to 2 cigarettes is a great accomplishment and you should be proud. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Azusaman, I think it takes great courage for females and males to be open about their feeling and to be able to share it with all of us.I have found great comfort from this site. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Rochel, I am sorry about the loss of your husband Bob. I tried not to make any major changes the first year because my mind and emotions changed almost every minute.But you must decide what is best for you and your family. It has been a little over a year since my husband died. This journey is hard and some days you will cry like a baby and freak out. But it is all part of the healing process. Take care. Mary Lou

Happy Birthday Kay, I hope you are having a good Birthday. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Marsha, What a lovely thought if I had 5 minutes with my husband what would I say. I talk to him every night before I go to sleep. Sometimes I cry because I am not sure if he hears me and I miss him so much. I don't think I could bare to say goodbye again. Mary Lou

Hi Green2010. I am sorry about the loss of your Mom and I will add your Dad to my prayers. Try to take one day at a time. I hope your second doctor appointment goes well. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Susie. Try not to think to far ahead. Everyones grieving is different. I have been at this for a little over a year and I am so glad that the first year is over because it was hard but you will come out a stronger person. I still cry but for shorter periods of time. I miss my husband terribly and I tell him every night that I love him. This long week-end is Thanksgiving so I am going to spend it with the ones I love. My daughter, my dog and my three cats. Take care. Mary Lou

Thanks Kay for your kind wishes. I'm looking forward to many happy posts from you in the future. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi jrm, I am so sorry about the loss of your husband. I have found this site to be very comforting because we all have the same thing in common. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Kay, I want to wish You and Jim the very best. I have read many of your posting and you have helped me get through some of the difficult days.I know that only after a year and a bit life will get better and maybe one day I might meet someone as dear as my husband and if not I will learn to be happy with my life and what the future has in store for me. Take care. Mary Lou

Mary Linda, The sentence that meant the most to me is, When we are in the most pain, we are making the most progress So sad but so true. Thank you for sharing. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Valley, I hope all goes well tomorrow and that you have the best recovery ever. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Deborah, Maybe this will help a little. I started to smile, and laugh a little more in my nineth month. Crying everyday but not as hard or as long. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Kath, I do agree stress can cause many health problems. I am a healthy person but over the last year I had many health problems. Thankfully nothing to serious. I think it is a way to tell the body to slow down. Valley, Good luck with your surgery and I hope you have a speedy recovery. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Susie, I am pretty new to this site, but I wanted to say hello after reading your posting. I am sorry about the loss of your husband. There are many nice people on this site who are very understanding. Their words are a great comfort to me when I am having a bad day. Some days will be better than others with alot of crying which is very normal. I lost my husband a year ago last july. No one can tell you when to return to work it is your decision because everyone grieves differently. You will feel better one day but it does take time. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi DeeGee, I think it is very important that you have what you originally requested on your husbands grave marker. When they foregot to include a flower holder on my husband marker I was very upset and offered to pay if need be. It was not my mistake so it was replaced at no extra cost. This is a loving tribute to your husband that comes from the heart. And yes I would want a comformation so it will ease your mind. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Nancy, I am sorry for your loss. I am pretty new to this site but I find it a great comfort to log on everyday. Alot of times I am feeling the same emotions as others who are posting about their loved ones . Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Mandi, I am so sorry. I lost my husband a little over a year ago. Sleeping is good for the soul. Our body lets us know when we need to sleep. Some days I stay in my pajamas all day long and I don't feel guilty. Grief is hard work but it does get better. Take care. Mary Lou

Hi Boo, The Eulogy that you wrote for your husband was absolutely beautiful. Thank-you for sharing it with us. Mary Lou