DebFromLodi

Thanks for sharing those.

So now is the time to stop and realize how they shaped your life. The good they gave you and how good you turned out because of it. Now you must continue your life living it for them, the way they would want you to do. Show everyone what wonderful parents you had through your actions and deeds. Good luck on your journey.

You are so lucky to be able to remember your dreams. I have tried but cannot. The only times i can remember them is when i wake from a nightmare and can't get back to sleep. i miss my mom and pray to God i could dream about her and REMEMBER IT, but it never happens.

Here is what I would do. Write your dad a letter and tell him all about your new job. After you write that, place two chairs facing each other and pretend he is in the chair opposite you. Read the letter to him and BELIEVE that he truly can hear you. When you are done, burn the letter and know in your heart that he heard every word you said. As for your mom, just sounds like she needs time and counselling. Allow her that time to heal and please be there for her. Then when you can't be there for her (because of your new job), you can find comfort knowing you did what you could for her. Then leave it to God to help her through her tough times. Take a deep breath and let go...allowing God to take control. Good luck to you in the new job.

Marty, thank you so much for taking the time for me. I really am trying, it is just so very hard to live without my mom. i am sure everyone here understands that feeling. i constantly pray for God to send me a sign so that i know she is in Heaven, i can't even remember any of my dreams. But you took the time to write to me and that means so much. I am going to look into those books today.

I so wish i had your beliefs. I am so confused since my mom died 2.5 years ago. i want to believe she is still with me. i want to believe she is in Heaven. I just don't know how to believe. I totally believe in God, don't get me wrong. I just don't know what happens when we die. Do we just sleep until the Lord's second coming or do we go to Heaven? Can we see and hear our loved ones on earth or do we forget? I am so confused and miss my mom so very very much. Please, I need help with this.

It is strange. For me, it has been 2 1/2 years without my mom. At times, i thought i would die...but I didn't. I am still here and the really sad thing is that now I am used to her not being here. I talk to her every single day and every night in bed. I beg for a sign from her, but get only silence. I still cry LOTS!!! My mom was and still is the most important person in my world. No one can replace a parent NO ONE. But I am just rambling now, sorry. It just doesn't seem fair that I am alive and she is gone. How can life go on with the most important person missing?????

Happy Birthday 2Sweetgirls. So sorry for your pain. I (and everyone else here) totally understand. Over 2 years since the loss of my mom and I miss her more today than ever. It does not seem right that life for us should go on. But it does. Be kind to yourself and know that you mom would want you to be happy on your birthday. I know that does not help, but it is true.

I can't believe that after 2.5 years of being without my mom, how I can cry just reading what others have written. God I miss her so much. Becky, I love what you wrote. I want just one more day with her to let her know how much I love and miss her and to hear how much she loves me. To touch her face and kiss her lips and so many questions to ask about her past. I love you, Mom.

Strange but I do not remember my dad ever hugging me. But that is a long story I will not go into. But my mom, God I miss her. She hugged us enough to make up for the lack of hugs from my dad. She was the perfect mom. We never, ever had to wonder if we were loved. We were loved more than we deserved. Thank you, Mom, for giving your love to us.

I lost my dear mother on Feb 2, 2008 and life has never been the same. It never can again. I have so many regrets, though I know I should not. We were all with her when she took her last breath and I was so grateful I had no regrets. Then as time passed the regrets came to life. I should have done this and I wish I had done that. I just have to try to remember that my mom knew how much we all loved her and we all knew how much she loved us. I just wish I had one more hour with her to tell her how much I love her, to touch her face and to kiss her sweet lips. My point is that no matter what you did or did not do while she was alive, the guilt and regrets will come. You just have to keep telling yourself it is ok and your mom knew how much you loved her. Your mom knew you did not want her to go and she would be with you now if she could. Treasure the memories you have. Enjoy your life because your mom would have wanted that. Take care of yourself.

Don't let anyone tell you how to feel. I have had three birthdays without my mom and i still wait for "the call." Everytime the phone rings, I pray to hear my mom's sweet voice singing "happy birthday" but of course, it never comes. It does get easier, just never goes away but thank God for that. I know she would be here with me if she could. I know she loves me and I love her so very, very much. She is always in my heart as is your dad in your heart. So they are never far away, right?

Thanks to all of you for your replies. No, the call did not come this year...perhaps next year? I will never stop praying for my "miracle" from my mom. In one way or another, it will come when the time is right.

And this is the third year that I will wait by the phone for a call from my mom. Knowing I will never get that call again. I prayed to God to please let the phone ring one time and hang up and I will know it was from her. Please pray that my phone rings one time today. Thanks

I am so very sorry for what you are going through. Please allow yourself time to heal. Stay away from those who cannot help you right now, if only to save those relationships. Put your trust in God and talk to your mom often. Take her beautiful flowers for Mother's Day and write a letter. My mom has been gone for two years now and I still miss her as much, if not more, than when i first lost her. She was AND STILL IS, my life.

When i visit the woman across the street (about my age) and she tells about the things she has to do for her mom that day (her mom is over 80). As soon as it turns into complaining, I tell her she had better enjoy the time while she can. I would love to have just one more moment with my mom, and it kind of makes me angry that she has all the time with her mom yet spends it complaining. I miss my mom more with each passing day.

It has been 2 years since my mom died and I am certainly not over it. I talk to her every day and every night and tell her how much i love and miss her. She was and is the most important person in my life. No one has ever told me i should be over it, thank God. I am so sorry people are treating you like that. Heal in your own time and the hell with them. Tell them I said so. What goes around comes around and they will get theirs someday, unfortunately for them.

You are so very very lucky to have had that dream. I have prayed for a dream like yours. Your mom is in Heaven and wanted to share that with you. I am so happy for you. I continue to pray to talk to my mom "real time" but in a dream that i can remember. God bless you and thanks for giving my hope again.

My mom will be gone for two years on Feb. 2. I know the reason she died was because first they approved knee replacement surgery for a 91 year old woman, which was wrong, then kept her on meds constantly. Some days she was clueless as to anyone or anything. We told her she should not be on meds. She never could handle them, once after back surgery they had her on heavy meds and she got out of traction and was leaving the hospital. This time, the day she was first put into rehab, we went to see her and she was up and walking out the door. That is the last time she ever walked due to the meds they kept her on. God, I miss her so much, she was my life and my best friend. I must stop now since it is too early for tears. I hate to start the day crying. I pray for all of us to get through our losses.

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 30 years ago and my mom has been gone 2 years on Feb 2 (coming up). I am having the hardest time dealing with my mom's passing. I miss her so much and every single night when i go to bed, i lay there and talk to her. Asking for a sign, which i never get. It is early in the morning right now and i cannot bear to start my day with tears so I will stop writing. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and I pray for God to help you through this.

I am so sorry you have to go through this. I can't believe it will be two years on Feb 2 that I lost my mom. I miss her so very much. At night, i just lay there in the dark and talk to her. I am 57 years old and i feel like an orphan with no mom or dad. My dad has been gone for over 30 years but with this loss, I just can't bear it. I need my mom, I miss talking to her, visiting her, seeing her beautiful face. I don't think it will ever get better. God be with us all as we go through this new journey in our lives. And Mom...until we meet again AND WE WILL, I love you.

bethe: I can't believe that you and I are feeling exactly the same way. My mom has been gone for almost 2 years and I still miss her more than I can say. I wish sometimes I would die so I could be with her again, I miss her that much. I hear things that she said to me, in her voice, going through my mind. I always worried about the day when I would lose her and now I am having to deal with it. I can't do it, I miss her so much. I pray for her to come to me in a dream, but she never does. Then I wonder if possibly she is just sleeping, waiting for the second coming of Christ to be raised again. or is she is Heaven now and not able to see my pain? This will be my 2nd Christmas without her. It is not getting any easier for me, I pray it gets easier for you in time.

Your post brought tears to my eyes. I miss my mom so very much. My family and i did not fight about ANYTHING after she died. Or even during the time she was in the convalescent hospital and i thank God for that. Family is so important. God be with you and thanks for sharing your story.

Only twelve days and they expect you to be better? My God, it has been almost two years since my mom left me and I still can't bear it without her. Heal at your own pace. Please don't let anyone tell you how to feel. I miss my mom as much today as the day i lost her, maybe more.

I still miss my mom so very much. It has been almost 2 years since she left.