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Wasn't Chris the one that had a serious injury so he couldn't exercise? I was thinking that, anyway, maybe water exercise might be an idea...I do know how important exercise is for our mental and physical health and well being, and as a way of relieving stress and making us feel better. Just an idea, don't know if it's possible for him or not.

Thanks for clarifying that and sharing your picture. This is going to be an eventful week then, you have your day on the 21st and my George's bdy is tomorrow and anv of his death is the 19th. June's a tough month for me...my dad's bdy was the 10th, same as their anv.

You're not a kidding! Knowing what I know now, I could not pine over someone that long...unless lost by death, but that's different. Your relationship wasn't destroyed, they didn't let you down, they left at the heighth of your relationship going strong.

fae it sounds heavenly!

Kristen, Sorry about that! Didn't mean to startle you. I wouldn't think Marcus would be unhappy with you about how you're handling things, but understanding, and knowing how hard this has been for you, I'd think he'd just want to put his arms around you and make it all better. I don't think our departed loved one would hold any judgment for us, after all, they haven't had to experience this, it's been us doing it!

Chris, Did you ever see the doctor about your anxiety? If that were under control it might help the emotions be more bearable. And you may not feel like it helps to post but it really does help to be able to voice yourself. That power that was lost when they died w/o our say so is restored partially when we voice ourselves at least. I'm sorry it hurts so much, I do know how hard it is.

We can eat with them but have to order it the day beforehand, so again, advance notice. Dementia Care Centers are much smaller than Assisted Living Centers and I think they plan their meals tighter as such. I prefer to take her out while she is still able to because I think it helps her mindset, makes her feel a little less imprisoned plus affords us more privacy. She did say the caregiver had always worked nights so isn't used to interaction with family members.

Poor Sasha. Does she like to go for walks? It's so hard that we can't explain to animals what's going on.

Yes!

Okay, I got a call back from the Exec. Dir. today and she is going to address the policy with the caregiver. I explained to her that I can't always give advance notice, particularly in the six months of winter as I have to keep abreast of the roads/weather before deciding to come. I am perfectly willing and capable to help her dress for outings and do not expect them to ready her. I have her there during medication times. Here's hoping with the air cleared and everything understood, all will go smoother. No update on the quarantine as yet.

Chris and Kristen, I don't know why/how people could leave us high and dry after losing the love of our life. It could happen to anyone, and seems to. But it happened to us and not them so they try to brush it aside and forget about it. I don't hear from George's family and friends either and he would be very upset if he knew this is how it'd turn out. He was always there for his family and friends.

If he were alive, we'd be heading out camping or to the coast, undoubtedly. Stark comparison to how my life is now.

Okay, I am probably the only other older one here, old enough to "remember" after 30 years, and I can honestly say, you don't forget. (That doesn't equate with wanting them back though). I wouldn't think they'd still be controlling your thoughts or focus after that long. I don't think you ever forget a love you had. On the other hand, it's not likely that they forget you either. But hoping in something where you're given every reason NOT to (as in he's moved on) isn't a great idea. Hope should be reserved for possibility. Maybe she does need to contact him just to have some finality one way or another. Sometimes people reunited after 50 years apart, it does happen. But I am concerned that she might be hoping for someone who has put her in the past and moved on with his life. Hope in that case would not be good for her.

I'm glad the pictures on your computer bring you comfort. I went through bouts of putting pictures up, taking them down, finally, I have left them up. I think whatever brings us comfort...and that can change from day to day...

Kristen, I really learned to stand up for myself when George died. Somewhere deep inside I think we find them encouraging and supporting us!

Anne, I so wish I could be there as you go to your appts. I love the FB sentiment you shared with us, so true! 2nd opinion is a good idea!

Amazing, aren't they? So in tune to everything about us! Anne, waiting with you...

Mary, so glad to see you safe and sound today! I just read about your tornado warnings and was instantly worried about you and Bentley! fae, good to see your update...so does that mean you'll decide to permanently reside in AK? I guess I'm confused because I thought you had stress from going there. Glad you have a safe place to be for ten days and hope it is restful for you!

George and I were each other's best friends too. Tomorrow would have been his 59th birthday. He worked away during the week and he would always call me on his breaks, except his last one at 1:30 am because he didn't want to wake me up. I would encourage him to spend time with the guys at work on his break and he'd say, "Naw, I can talk to them any time, it's YOU I want to talk to!"

Kristen, I hope you got my email yesterday...if I sound like a mom, I can't help it!

Ahh, Bentley is so cute! He does look tired but he's still smiling! Anne, will look for your post later today.

LOL...true!

Anne, I hope you'll let us know what you learned today...if you can remember it all.

Thinking that may not be enough...

Mary, I did call, I am waiting for the Exec, Dir.' call back. If she doesn't call me back today, I will call her again. The receptionist did say that she was probably stressed over the quarantine. Still, that's not an excuse. Smiles are free, there's ways to deal with people, and ways not to. I can excuse her rudeness but am not impressed with her "controlling" manner. I know that's the foot in the door to abuse and I'm not having it.