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Happy Birthday, Gwen!
brat#2 replied to KarenK's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
I'm surprised I haven't broken my TV remote control by now with all the switching channels I've been doing as soon as I see a certain commercial or show that I know is going to bring me to tears (which doesn't take much these days). I still can't listen to music without crying either, so I guess we are not alone in these feelings. Joyce -
If You're Going Through Hell
brat#2 replied to Margm's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
That's so true, I wish I could figure out how to change it, but just can't seem to find it yet. That was Dale and I, and I didn't mind it and didn't feel we were alone. But now it's nothing but loneliness. Joyce -
The daily struggle...
brat#2 replied to Patty65's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Patty and Gwen, I know how you feel when you say you feel weak. I too was once a strong person but that was with Dale by my side. I know he did everything he could to help become that strong, independent person, but I don't feel that way anymore. I have to talk myself into going out of the house to do the things that need to be done, I just want to stay inside and not deal with anything. I know that I can't and like you said Gwen, I navigate it by habit only right now. It is so difficult to figure out who we are now. Joyce -
The daily struggle...
brat#2 replied to Patty65's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Patty, beautiful. The night will always be yours and his. Wishing you strength to get through all you have to do and wishing you can find some peace. Hugs Joyce -
Can't feel love
brat#2 replied to Gwenivere's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Gwen, I know the feeling of everything you said and I really do wish I knew how to make things matter again, so I could help you and all of us. I know this doesn't really help, but you are in my thoughts and heart and if I could physically be there with you, I would be, just to listen and give you a shoulder to cry on. Joyce -
The daily struggle...
brat#2 replied to Patty65's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
I know how hard today is for you, these special occasion days are so difficult. Just remember the love you felt that day and remember that love is still here today. Beautiful picture. Sending you hugs. Joyce -
Shock and Awe after 1 year
brat#2 replied to iPraiseHim's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
I have the exact same feelings, the good memories are great, but then I get really sad knowing that there won't be any more memories (good or bad) made with him. I to hope that someday that I can feel good when I have those memories. Hugs Joyce -
Can't feel love
brat#2 replied to Gwenivere's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
No real words to say Gwen, other than I hear you. Joyce -
Some GOOD news!
brat#2 replied to WolfsKat's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
That's great news. It sure will help now that you won't have those financial worries as much and that you can quit your job and find something that you might actually enjoy. I'm happy for you! Joyce -
Feeling emotional
brat#2 replied to rdownes's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Robin, I'm so sorry your visit with your dad didn't go like you wanted. Unfortunately, I have found that the people I needed the most to understand and be there for me during this were the ones that hurt me the most because they weren't there, so to save me from more hurt, I've pretty much cut them out of my life. It's never easy to take that hurt, but you will find support from others that will surprise you and you always have us. Sending you hugs. Joyce -
Polly, That is a great way to honor Richard and what a beautiful picture. I too, like Brad, love the Angelversary, that is so much better that anniversary. Hope you and your daughter will find some comfort today and sending you hugs. Joyce
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The daily struggle...
brat#2 replied to Patty65's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Ana, I just had someone asked me that this morning. But to be fair to that person, they don't know me other than from seeing me at the grocery store, so I said nothing exciting and left it at that. It is really hard to find that balance with people. Even the neighbors that have known Dale and me for 20+ years, I don't feel like I can really tell them how I'm doing and not doing. I just find it easier to say I'm okay and let it go at that. Posting on here and a few people that I have that I can old fashioned email with are the only places I feel I can really say how I'm feeling and believe me, I'm grateful for that. Thank you everyone. Joyce -
October 31,The Last Day LC Was Home....
brat#2 replied to mik's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Kim, wishing you some comfort and peace today, we all know how hard these certain dates can be on us. Joyce -
I miss you, I love you
brat#2 replied to rdownes's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Yes, Robin, I'm feeling very down today myself, no real reason, just am, so I know how you feel. Hugs to you Joyce -
Gin, it is exciting about the Cubs, but I totally understand how it really doesn't matter. Most things don't really matter to me much anymore. Joyce
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No ordinary day..
brat#2 replied to Marie Lee's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Gwen, I wish there was something I could say to make it better for you. I know you have Steve in your heart and he always will be and hopefully, when you can get through this stage you are going through, that will be enough for you and give you some peace. I do understand how hard it is being alone, it is heartbreaking and the silence is deafening. I haven't bought anything new for the house either, why bother, no one but me to see it and what's the point, I would buy stuff to share with Dale or something he would like. I was never much of a shopper anyway but now it's even less fun. We are here for you and hope we can make you feel better in some way. Hugs Joyce -
I use to decorate for every holiday there is, because Dale like it so much. Last year, I did decorate a little for Christmas, but that was it. This year I was planning on trying to decorate for Halloween, but i usually do it at the beginning of the month and was having to prepare to evacuate and then did evacuate and then deal with damage (which I'm still dealing with) for the Hurricane, so I lost interest in decorating for Halloween, maybe next year. Joyce
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No ordinary day..
brat#2 replied to Marie Lee's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
I agree with you all, I don't think Dale would be handling this well at all if I were the one to go first. I'm glad he is not having to go through this pain. It's not that I'm that strong and I'm having a very hard time dealing with this, but I've been with him when he has lost family members and friends and he didn't handle those to well. I've lost most family over the years, but this one has truly rocked me to my core, but somehow I'm getting through it, I believe that Dale and all the other family I've lost are still with me and that is giving me some kind of strength and I hope they continue for the rest of my life, I sure need the help. Joyce -
Need prayers
brat#2 replied to R.Everit55's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Sending you prayers Joyce -
The daily struggle...
brat#2 replied to Patty65's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Patty, so glad to see you post gain. I totally understand how you don't feel like you have words anymore, I don't post much either because of that, I read here all the time, but just can't find the words most days to say anything. You are not feeling sorry for yourself you do have the right to feel that way. I'm sorry all those dates are hitting you at once, it makes it very hard. Sending you Hugs Kevin, I'm at 15 1/2 months since Dale passed away and I totally get what you are saying and feel the same way. Hopefully for both of us this feeling will finally pass and we can maybe start to feel something more than I don't give a crap. -
A cold day in the fall
brat#2 replied to mik's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Exactly Brad! -
Shock and Awe after 1 year
brat#2 replied to iPraiseHim's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
George, glad you are safe. Good idea about the motion light. Have a safe trip and enjoy the mountains. Joyce -
The pain in the missed experiences
brat#2 replied to Marie Lee's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Marie, that does seem to be one of the hardest parts of this journey, knowing that they will not experience things again. I know that when something happens, good or bad, I want to turn to him and say "did you see that?" or "did you have fun?" or "what do you think we should do?". I believe that they do see what is going on, but just can't express to us that they do, so I feel we just need to keep going on the best we can and believe that they are having the moments with us. Hugs to you Joyce