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Margaret, it's funny you mention purses...George bought me my favorite Coach classic purse in different colors. He always felt nothing was too good for me and wanted me to have everything. I'm at the point I may have to sell them, I need $ badly, too many unexpected expenses since I retired! I will hang on to a couple of them and they will be the last thing to go and not until I'm forced...

I have been exhausted with my dog being ill since Feb . 10th. Emotional toll affects physical energy, seems to just drain it. Add to it the having to cook for him the rest of his life (he was 140 lbs but has lost 5 since this began...that's a lot of food to cook!) and it's more taxing. Today was my rough day at work, glad to have it over, tonight I can relax! George, I hope you get some relaxation fit into your schedule, I know you work hard. Praying for you!

I hope you consider Anne's words and talk to your professor beforehand and let him/her know that you aren't doing well because you're grieving and seeing if you can retest if you don't pass.

I've done Karaoke but I'd probably be more comfortable with it if I had a drink under my belt! Alas I cannot drink.

Well I, unfortunately, know this is my life now. I don't recall when it set in exactly, it's been this way a long time. Anearia, I can understand how you feel you want those three months back. Had you known how little time you'd have left together, I'm sure you might have opted differently, both of you, yet he was doing what he felt was best to help in his life and marriage, and that's a real testament to his love for you!

I don't know how your college is, but do you have an adviser or counselor you could go and talk to, they might have a suggestion. sharirouse was going to college when her dad died and she had a really hard time but in the end did make it through it, maybe you could read some of her posts. I know it's a struggle when you're grieving.

Good luck with finding someone worthy of your love, Kevin. Wish I could be a fly on the wall with your Karaoke!!

Butch, I'm so glad your son got to hold her and is able to be with her! I'm sorry the stomach flu is going around your house though. Get well soon!!

They charged me $75 for a plastic box that didn't have a nickel's worth of plastic in it, looks like a Kleenex box without the hole in it. I told my kids to recycle it when my time comes and don't dare pay $75 (or more) for a piece of plastic! For all I'm concerned, they could have it put in a ziploc bag! What a money making racket!

You mean they make them without dials now??

My MIL was Swedish...also alcoholic. She was also my best friend and the sweetest mom one could ever have...when she wasn't drinking. She quit totally the last few years of her life.

Everything you've said is true, I think you have a good grasp of the situation. What I pick up is that even though he was a drinker and problematic when he did, he also had a kind heart. He made you love him, in spite of it all. I suppose you neither regret nor relish some of your days together, alas, that is the way it is sometimes. I'm sorry the facility didn't do right by him, it's too bad. Addictions wreak havoc on families and relationships, but it's a sickness, not necessarily indicative of one's worth. I believe it to be in the genes and it's up to the individual to help or hurt it. At last he has laid his addiction to rest and you also can lay it to rest and remember the good that made you love him for who he was.

Mitch, I join Joyce in what she's saying to you. I know today is tough, every day is tough without Tammy in it, but somehow it seems extra hard when it's the anv. of death. It brings everything back in vivid widescreen. I'm glad you worked today, if nothing else, it killed some hours. My wish for you today or sometime in the near future, that you can think of good memories without it hurting so bad inside. Eventually it gets there. I'm also glad you feel support here, that is the whole purpose of this place...that and learning throughout this journey. Peace & hugs, Kay

Your Bella is beautiful, I can see why you miss her so.

Terri, all I can say (in response to BIL/lawnmowing/financial services) is WOW! I'd rather pay someone to mow my lawn! Don't feel bad about getting hit for $2,000, I got hit for $50,000...we're very vulnerable when we lose our spouse and the vultures start circling immediately, they smell their prey from far off!

Haha, I love it!

My dryer has been running 38 years and has only been worked on once, nine years ago. My washer only lasted 21 years though an I've had this one 18 years, although both were worked on a few times. There's not much to dryers, so it's possible your dryer will last as long as you do! The more high tech things become, the more that can (and does) go wrong.

According to marriagebuilders.com there isn't anything you can do to save a marriage plagued with alcohol and drugs unless and until the affected person seeks help. That doesn't mean it's destined for divorce, but it can't be all it could be in its current state. I grew up in a home with a mentally ill mother and an alcoholic father, and know how it affects those in the family. I'd have to say you deserve a pat on the back, not guilt, for holding it together in spite of the issues. Maybe you didn't always respond perfectly...who of us would?! Right now you have enough to deal with in losing your husband, whom you love, without beating yourself up for whatever mistakes you perceive you made. You both made them, we all have, to some degree or another, humans just aren't perfect. I hope you'll give yourself the same grace and understanding that you would give to a best friend in this situation. We are, after all, hopefully, our own best friend.

I'm with your mother, if you figure that one out, let me know! Haha Well I hope you don't have a long wait. I've heard those extended warranties cost more than they're worth in the long run so quit having them over 30 years ago, good thing too! My refrigerator lasted 34 years, my microwave 22 years, my freezer about 60 years...can't hardly get that length of time any more!

I wish I could stream but alas there is no cable internet here, only slow speed satellite and it's very limited.

Marg, I have an e-book that helped me when my mom got dementia. I'll be happy to email it to you if you message me your email address.

Amy, I'm sorry. These kinds of days can be hard to deal with when we've lost our mom or the relationship wasn't what it should have been. If you want to treat it differently, then create it to be what you want it to be!

Terri, you might want to limit your time with her right now, at least until you feel better able to handle it. Or confront her with the differences between a stinkin' job and losing a husband. I'm sorry you're going through that.

Karen, will they bring you a new freezer then? I got mine from Sears, only paid $346 for it and it paid for itself in what I saved in electricity over my old one! It's smaller and a chest, not as convenient as my big upright was, but it's just me now, I don't need such a big one.

Thank you, Marty!