Kavish

Thanks to everyone on this site. Merry Christmas and I wish everybody can have peace and be still in thier heart where the memories are cherished forever. Regards, Kavish

I loved my Dabby. my best friend, soul and heart, and will always love her, but while I talked to her friend Lucie, two days ago, she asked me that "whether it was time to let her go." I think it is time for Dabby to be free wherever she is but her love for me and my love for her will always endure. Thank you, Kavish

Hi, It is ok to be you. It is what we learn from our loved ones that will allow us the freedom without judgement because they loved us with no conditions. Take care , you are here with us. Kavish

HI Tim I too have similar time alike Lucille and you shared, with Diana . She too had a 1-2 foot tree standing on the table top beside the front window lit up with a Fairy in white atop. She would have it lit a couple of weeks prior until new year. She had a red bow with jingle bell which would ring with every woosh of the wind on her bright white front door. She too liked to bake shortbread, ginger cookies and I got to taste them all. I am going to keep her in my thoughts as I celebrate Christmas in my thoughts with her. regards, Kavish

HI Linda, I am sure you think of Brian , as I do of my best friend Diana, Dabby as she was called in her native Scotland and I just feel fortunate to have met her. I don't feel afraid just because I can't see her physically , but she is there like the rest of our loved ones. I believe in life after death and read Deepak Chopra's book about it. I will continue on this journey with her all my life. I hope to have lots of directions to take and surprise myself. I am not afraid because my heart is full of love for her. Hope you my best wishes and prayers for your Brian in your heart. Regards, Kavish

Hi Ron, Grieving heals our heart as it is our heart that cleanses itself and becomes stronger. I am sure you have your heart filled with all the good memories of your mom and I am proud that you cry when you are among others as well because it helps you be stronger, no matter where you are. Kavish

Hana, I am terribly sorry that your dad had to die and could not see you. I am sure he wished and tried his best and awaited till he could see you. But God had other ways, for you to see him as he was in your thoughts and prayers. You will always keep him alive , stronger , in your heart where he will live forever. I have my best friend living in my heart who has made me stronger and I know she knows I know she is there for me. I am sure you will know your dad is with you forever. Kavish

Could you think of something else? I also get dreams where I am always inadequate to finish my homework from school or college, but I just don't let it bother me. Kavish

Hope you the strength to be and our prayers for your grandma. regards, Kavish

HI Cheryl, Knowing a person whom you can trust with all your feelings and suddenly not having them there is hard, and harder if they die so suddenly. I hope you have faith that just because you can't see your mom physically won't take her away from you. Please keep building your faith that your mom is there with you ,for you. I am grateful for my best friend, who kept me strong and I know that I have her in my life every step of the way even though I can't see her , I have faith she is here with me. Thanks, Kavish

Good to see you back, Shelley. Kavish

I don't take any sleeping pills. I just lie down with my thoughts and hope to have no thoughts when I wake up. I don't believe in too many things anyways. Ofcourse I believe in life after death. Take care, Kavish Just for information.

I wish we all could join together one day and toast to our loved ones. I am sure they are with us in spirits! Kavish

HI Mary Linda, Thanks for the idea of the mini funeral whenever I meet up with Diana's and my friends. I would love to talk of her to everybody because she is a good soul and it would be soothing to my spirits. regards, Kavish

Chai, I do not think that you did anything wrong. Of course if you had someone to share this with before all this transpired while you matured to handle things by yourself, it just had to be. But do not grieve. You still have your father in your heart and his love for you and your love will always keep you together. I believe that my love for my best friend is so strong that I do not need feel grief. You are a strong person Chai, and so is your love for your dad. I would suggest to keep it strong through this journey and ahead till you can feel that nobody and no one can ever come in between the two of you. Your dad wanted you to find your own path and I greatly admire him for that. I am sure he knows that you will take care and find your path yourself, that is the ultimate truth for life and he wanted to give you that gift to find your own way. Be strong, be as you are, We all believe in you, regards, Kavish

Hi Ted, I too would have wanted to share more with others but sometimes it depends on the listener if he is listening or not. About counselling it is the same thing. All we need is somebody to listen. I am sure your wife Adrianne knew your concern for her and she can listen to you now. regards, kavish

Hi Korina and Linda, I feel that I although I also was not able to save my best friend, Dabby, I do feel her strength in me to take care of things now, being more responsible towards her and acting likewise. So I do not feel bad as I know she is guiding me through this and Scott and Brian are there for you two as well if I may say that. regards, Kavish

Hi, Just the fact that this guy would get personal shows how immature and worthless his character is. I would not waste a minute fighting this guy because as you said Scott is your soulmate. I would not let off either on pursuing the legal case and it helps to to blow off your steam on this discussion site rather than directing it at the hot air head who would not understand. Kavish

I just want to add that this is the best website on the internet. I too can take the help and support I see here and help myself to fight and live another day. Thanks, Kavish

HI All, My best friend died 4 months ago, and I feel the intensity of my friendship I had every day. I don't want the intensity to lessen at all as it makes me cry sometimes and the other times I feel happy that it asks me to seek her out in ways she would have tried to do things. I know I will be stronger with her guiding me every day of my life. I also believe it will bring me closer with her, she as in spiritual, and I in physical. regards, Kavish

I would not say a word and would just feel her smile go through my soul to reverberate in my heart forever. Kavish

Hi, I had been living at my uncle's for the past 4 months after my best friend died and unable to find a job or uneager to knock on doors in the job search in and around the area, I am sheepish to say that when my uncle offered me a ticket back to India I said it might be for the good. As soon as we had talked the matter over, my cousin walked into the house and said his previous employer had phoned him if I was interested in starting work at his establishment immediately. I said yes. In a matter of two minutes I, from accepting to go pack and go home, was getting ready to start at the new place,for training, in a couple of hours time. I believe it was my best friend who intervened to keep me in Canada and not go back to India. Kavish

Hi Madimoon, "Stroke is a 3rd most common cause of death in the developed countries of the world, as listed by the World Health Organisation. More than 150,000 Americans die of it each year, representing app. 1/3 rd of all those who suffer a stroke. ONly cardiac arrest and cancer exceed its marauding power. " This excerpt has been taken from Dr. Sherwin B Nuland's book called "How we Die." I am sorry your dad died of this blockage in the blood supply to the brain. My friend suffered of it too. So I share in your grief. I wish you my sincerest condolences. Kavish

Thank you Jrm for sharing the beautiful picture. I should do the same for Dabby's birthday at month's end. Kavish

Hi Kathy, I wish for you and Maddy lot of happiness together. God is helping you through her. My sincerest regards, Kavish