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Tessa thank you for replying Im from Athens Greece.I lost my husband 15 months ago its very hard to realise that Im alone .I found in this site alot of caring friends that helpt me with words from their hart.Im afraid that I can not make myself understud beacause I can not handle the languege.TENY

HELOW TESSA I do have the same pain and can understand like you IM not from USA Wrere are you from? TENY

John thank you I needed your warmth and cnford today you have my husbands name and he is gone 15 months todayI do miss him much and physical presence .Im looking forward for your book.TENY

15 months today and Im here alone and have the feeling that Im moving in a cloud.I just dont know how to handle my life its like Im waching a scary movie and Im not the one in real life that has to face the loss.Looking at people walking rushing down the streets I wonder do they know that within a second life can take away everything we have ? Whell When I had the security of love I did not realise either.Reading books about grief thy say that death is part of life.Life has its rythm death destroys life and the rythms of those left alive alone..Im sorry to post for those who are at the begining of their grief and have hope that it will get easier.Did any of you read my last post in odd number? Im afraid that I can not make myself understood.Thank you TENY

GAIL every thing you say gould be my words as well.IM realy sorry and mostly that I can not make your pain less.Im often dreaming of Yiany and try not to get up so that the dream will last.Once I dreamed that he came bak and I was crying telling him that he should not go away again.Weekends are hard but as Dusky wrote we have to try not to loose hope.Wish you feel better.TENY

Scotty Thanks for sharing the picture .I know how hard is the wheel throwing pots.I did it a couple of years ago and also combind by painting.If you need advice how to do glasing and finishing her creations Il be glad to help you.If you want to see my production go to www.teny.gr Hope you feelbetter TENY

HI William Im sorry that you hurt but I do understand .Hoping that new eviroment and home will be of help .You are yung and life has alot of surpisesbad and good you had your share of bad so I realy wish you the best to come.TENY

Thank you all for replying .I think that the way I handle the language try to transelate my greek thoughts in english makes it dificult to make myself understood .You are all having a point .I was married when I was 18 .I dont remember life without YIANY .I was the one who socialised more .Because of my work I needed puplic relations.>He was tere waiting for me to share every thing.Its not a matter of identity but of despair as you said BOB .Pain and lossand finding no way to ajust to reality as you understood WENDY and being among couples reminds more of the pain and the life that is gone for ever.Sharing my feelings and your answers is agreat help .Thank you my friends TENY

HI Scotty I know what you feel Together with my husband I could face everything .My normal is also gone.I wanted you to know that I have a ceramics workshop Work was the only way Icould take some of the pain .Im not creative any more .I would like to see some of your wifes pots .As all friends here you have to try day by day.Thinking of you TENY

Last week Iv been invited for diner .I started acxepting going but always felt lonely and hurt coming home.The first invitation was of a couple of friends >we were 3 widows and 2 couples.The couples are so much older than me and Ikept asking why me again. the 2 widows are over 10 years of their loss and found a way of life.I left early cause I cuold not hold my tears.Last night I was at cusins home 7 people 3 couples and me the odd number.Sunday my brother has a lunch 11 people 5 couples and me the odd number!I wonder does any of you feel the same? Do single man not by choice feel the same or it easier for them ? The reality of being alone hurts more when Im among couples that are going on together.How willI ever find a way of life that hurts less? TENY

HI kay I realy hope that you feel better and that you will get the right treatment .Please let us know .My thoughts from far away.TENY

HI lily I can feel your pain and I know it does not help to tell you that it could be my words as well.When did your husband die? Was he in hospital?Do you have family or friends close to you?Its a gret help to keep posting.Im thinking of you >TENY

GAIL Im thinking of you and I know how hard it is .Iv been through the painful anniversary .Im realy admiring your courage and way of thinking its promising for all of us traveling the same road.Keep strong my fiend.A big hug from far away. TENY

THANK you for replylng .I have started with herbal meds 3 months ago the real thing as my therapist says Iv stared 2 weeks today.I visit for counceling once a week .He says that a year is according to his profetion a time for me to start feeling better and that i cant concider myself an exception to the rule !Grief is universal and ahuman feeling so I have to find a way to go on.As about friends that I can have a crying face with you my far away friends are the only ones !TENY

Hellow my friends Last year when grief came in ny life I did not get any medical treatment.Now my therapist gave me pills for depression.He says that Ichould start feeling better but I feel like I have a big octapus around my body squeesing me tight.Im loosing hope trying to find meaning in my life.Yiany and me were so close together that I had no friends and no social lifeI meet alot of people at work but I have to keep a non crying face.Being so confused I can not creat at my studio and realy need support and ideas. TENY

HI yes you should post especialy when you feel that there is hope for all of us! I do feel so desparate and reading your post I can face another day. thanks TENY

HI DUSKY welcome back I live in Greece will I be able to find your book?I would like to read it .I feel you have alot to say and it will be healing to all your friends here .TENY

HI WENDY I wear Yianys ring together with mine.That is what my mother did and most weman in GReece.I did not give away any belongings to strangers my sons took most of them.ALl of memories and thngs we loved are in uor summer home and that is the reason I never been alone snce he is gone.

HI william welcome >I wish you good luck in your new home .i also wanted to be able to send you one of my pots for you new decoration!! TENY

Holidays are over but I feel the same pain .I try to get up in the morning late so the day feels shorter.There are times that I want to scream and cry and try to understand what is happening .Emotional strain and stress are folllowed by confusion .Having no one to share the day to day living keep asking myself since the most important person in my life is gone nothing seems to matter.I know that all of you dont like the new way of life it was not our choice .I feel tha loosing the past the fear of future beeing as painful as the present moment gives me no purpose in life.Is there any hope? TENY

Hellow my friends I do know the song but not the singer .Music is not healing for me it makes me cry and I can not listen to any kind of music since last year .It hurts alot.TENY

HI GAIL Im already a grandma .Its great to have grandchildren the days I spend with them are a confort.I do keep a smile for them and hope that yours willgive you a lot of smiles.TENY

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THANK YOU my friends for replying.I do have so many thoughts but I can not handle the laguage well to express myself I do have to agree that BOB should be doing counceling always finding the words to make me think in order to regain some courage.All of you are precious and realy hope some day we find strength and maybe meet eachother.TENY

I just came back from my therapist.He always trying to tell me that life is stronger than death and by now I should be mooving.I do suffer alot and his opinion is tha it is my choice how I handle my life and tha trying to avoid taking pills to handle depression is only killing me.Is realy life stronger or is the unknown of death that is keeping us here.All the lonely days of christmas I was trying to find meaning to my future life.Will I ever find love for other people for my kids that are suffering with me? If I was closer to each one of you maybe I found some stregth.Thinking of all of you suffering the same pain.TENY