MikeC Posted August 16, 2008 Report Share Posted August 16, 2008 It has been more than seven weeks since my Janet died. After her death, visits and calls "just checking in" have dropped dramatically. It is not like I have nobody - several friends still drop by, invite me out, or call regularly to check on me. But some people who were very frequent visitors during Janet's illness have seemingly disappeared from the face of the earth - missing persons, so to speak. One that puzzled me was my sister-in-law, who was married to my older brother who passed away three years ago. After my brother died Janet and I invited her to dinner every week. I thought we had developed a strong bond, even stronger than when my brother was alive. She visited frequently during Janet's final weeks, but since Janet's service I had heard nothing from her until a couple days ago when she left a voice mail message checking in to see how I was doing. Anyway, after several attempts to call her back got no answer, I emailed her and told her that I was struggling with the loss of Janet and also invited her to dinner. She sent a reply saying she had not called or dropped by because the thought that Janet would not be here was unbearable.The more I think about this the more it hurts. After losing her husband she should know how unbearable it is for me that Janet is not here. It also reinforces my belief that for some people I am basically just a reminder that Janet is gone.Thanks for taking the time to read this.Mike Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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