LindaG Posted June 25, 2010 Report Share Posted June 25, 2010 Hello Everyone- As usual, when something bizarre in the grief process comes up - I seek advice. I had lunch with an old friend a few weeks ago. My maid of honor. I had not seen her in a while and she asked me why I was still wearing my wedding rings and when I planned to date again? She's very direct and one of the reasons that normally - I like her friendship. Removing the wedding rings never occured to me and dating - well - horror. It will be eight months since Joe suddenly passed in a few weeks. I can't imagine dating anyone else. Then an old boyfriend that remained a close friend- 20 years old - seeked my design help with an investment property. He's been kind since my husband passed and I thought nothing of it. He's now married but soon things became uncomfortable when he started to confide that his marriage was not a happy one and he was considering a separation. His casual flirting has become uncomfortable to the point that I am avoiding him and wondering what is wrong with me that I did not see this coming. So, I guess I need to know if I am wearing the rings as a way to hold on - or if that is okay? How do you ever get to the point of considering dating someone else. Because I am still in my 40's and was widowed younger, I think there is more expectation that I will "want or need to date" sooner ?? I don't know. Bigger question that is probably better left for my therapist but I'm just curious what other people are experiencing and thinking. Thank you as always for your kind input. - Linda G Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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